Family help: how do you end a long term relationship?

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how do you end a long term relationship?

without hurting the other person, or sending them into a drinking binge? I’m lost in my thoughts, confused and……………….. well broke. About 14 months ago he asked me can your first relation ship be your last?, this being my first relationship I couldn’t answer him. he asked me if the reason I hadn’t moved in with him was because I haven’t told my parents I was gay yet? or because I still loved my straight roommate. Quoting him “your roommate is Your golden goose”….. he was in a in a drunken rage, I broke up with him for a day and gave him a second chance.

shortly after that, this happened

January 8th 2008 3:08pm .I decided to move back in with my parents. that day I quite my job, and went home to pack-up my things. when I got home I walked in to his room, and told him I was moving out. He asked when? I said today. He got pissed and tried to blackmail me to stay. Saying He would make me the black sheep of the family, outing me to my father. who I hadn’t told yet. So I called my dad and handed the phone to my brother, said tell him. I called his bluff. well after I said I would take him to court. he strangled me for 45 seconds. after he let go he started punching me in the face, saying family doesn’t do this to each other. Anyway long story short. That was the day I came out to everyone in my family and got my brother arrested
*****the reason this all happened was because my brother could pay the morgue on this house comfortably with out me…….

I had nowhere else to go so I moved in with my boyfriend. Witch was a mistake….
Its been going on for 2 years and I’m not happy anymore. What should I do?

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (4 minutes after post)

a little confused, what has your brother got to do with this?
but about the relationship… im not sure there will be a way to end it with this guy if he has been violent and drunken before, perhaps just talk through why you’re not happy, he has to realise that it doesnt matter how angry he gets, it wont make you happy with him. Not entirely sure what advice to give other than be calm and if something happens then phone to police

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