Love help: Hi there is this guy i really like. - Help.com

Where do you guys live?

have you actually dated, or this all in your head so far?

ChavyWasabi wrote:
Where do you guys live?

we live in scotland he lives in milnathort, me in kinross they are about 2 miles away from each other

arloste wrote:
have you actually dated, or this all in your head so far?

no we havent dated its just the feeling i get but we like go out together all the time just not as an item as such

Do you know him well?

so ask him out, what’s the worse that could happen? Maybe he’s too shy to ask you? Maybe he’s waiting for you to say something…

ChavyWasabi wrote:
Do you know him well?

yes he’s my best friend and has been for all the time i’ve been in high school

arloste wrote:
so ask him out, what’s the worse that could happen? Maybe he’s too shy to ask you? Maybe he’s waiting for you to say something…

I’m just so scared that he’ll say no and life might not be the same

for how long do you know him?

ChavyWasabi wrote:
for how long do you know him?

for about 3 years

Well, I’m not sure how you’d say it, but make it clear that you enjoy being friends but you wouldn’t mind becoming more. Just say it in such a way that it doesn’t jeopardize what you have are make it awkward, but gives him an opening to say yes or no.

And how long have you had feelings for him?

ChavyWasabi wrote:
And how long have you had feelings for him?

about 2 years

arloste wrote:
Well, I’m not sure how you’d say it, but make it clear that you enjoy being friends but you wouldn’t mind becoming more. Just say it in such a way that it doesn’t jeopardize what you have are make it awkward, but gives him an opening to say yes or no.

i shall try this it seems a good way to suggest it without ruining everything like you said thank you. Thank you all :D

Could you describe him? What do you think of him?

ChavyWasabi wrote:
Could you describe him? What do you think of him?

he’s great! he cares about me, he luistens to me understands me and helps me. He has faults but i love him for those aswell as his good points. he’s been there for me throughout the toughest years of my life and made sure I came out smiling.

Sounds like a great guy! ^^ …he has helped you a lot then; Would you be willing to do the same for him?

ChavyWasabi wrote:
Sounds like a great guy! ^^ …he has helped you a lot then; Would you be willing to do the same for him?

yes i would do anything for him. If he was in need of help i would do my best that i culd to help him. If he needed somebody to talk to i would be there to listen. I care for him as a friend as well as i love him

Could he do anything to push you away?

ChavyWasabi wrote:
Could he do anything to push you away?

not really no. if he told me he didnt feel the same way i would still care for him as my friend and i would still do the same for him.

what would happen if he hurts you?

ChavyWasabi wrote:
what would happen if he hurts you?

i dont think he ever could

but if he did, would you forgive him?

ChavyWasabi wrote:
but if he did, would you forgive him?

yes

You sure?

No matter what he did?

ChavyWasabi wrote:
No matter what he did?

yes but i know he never would

Now that’s love ^^

I wanna tell you a little story, may I?

ChavyWasabi wrote:
Now that’s love ^^

( i got rid of the anonymous thing just to let you know lol) of course please tell

My family is not the best family in the world, but at the same time it is. We had some ups and downs, but I’m sure of one thing: we love each-other.

When I was young, my brother tried to kill me, he had a mental problem called paranoia, sure you’ve heard about it ^^… We have been there for him and he’s way better know, I love him with all my heart. Also when I was in highschool I used to not go to class, practically skipped my last to years in a way. In the university it was even worst. But my family was there for me, they never stoped wanting what was best for me. I’m still in the university, we still have lots of problems, but I learned what love really is through their example.

Love isn’t just a feeling. You can feel horrible towards a person and still want the best for him. I really think you guys are in the right track, no matter what happends be there for him, that’s what I would say. Think always in what is best for him.