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I really want to tell this girl how I feel…

Im crazy about her and it scares me. Should I tell her? do women like being told that someone is in love with them? I’ve been having a courtship with this gal for almost 8 weeks. We work together and we have only been on a few dates. I don’t love her…Yet. But im afraid to let go because I don’t want to be hurt. I don’t want to push her away either but we need to take this to the next level.

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Anonymous #
1 year, 1 month ago (2 minutes after post)

make a gesture that is bigger than what you have been doing…
send flowers, or a nice note or some sort of personal gesture that will show her that you want to take it to the next level.

i think women love to be told what is going on in your head… as long as it’s not psycho! :)

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Srinh offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (9 minutes after post)

yes buy her a big floral arrangment of flowers. she might like that. and why does it have to go the the other level? why can’t it just stay that way it is?

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Anonymous #
1 year, 1 month ago (10 minutes after post)

because if it stays where it is I feel we will go nowhere… I need her to show some interest at my level. Reciprocation is key

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Srinh offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (13 minutes after post)

well she’s probably leery because you two work together.

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (20 minutes after post)

Well how is your chemistry? How does she feel about you? If she seems to be takign this lightly, telling her that will scare her off. Gauge where you are both at emotionally.

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (1 hour after post)

Don’t waste time. If you really have feelings for her then let them show. Be honest faithful and true to those feelings… let it happen. Do not let fear stand in the way of your feelings… I … I had a situation where I was afraid and I let something go… don’t do the same thing…

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (7 hours, 33 minutes after post)

you should try talking to her. maybe she feels the same way as you. dont hide the way you feel because then it will make it more difficult for you and her. so just tell her how you feel and let it fall were ever it wants.

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An Unknown Location | 8 months, 3 weeks ago (5 months after post)

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An Unknown Location | 4 months, 2 weeks ago (9 months, 1 week after post)

if you’ve got to the stage where you’ve flirted to death day in day out AND its clear that you both have feelings and she seems determined not to make a move then YOU have to do something BUT MAKE IT LIGHT. Dont come on too strong. Let her know in some small way that you have some serious feelings for her but also do it in such a way that you appear to her that you can take it or leave it. That will work wonders and make her want you.

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