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I dont know any that will work but jsut stand up for yourself and everything will fall into place

Start small, I used to be very shy and have no self confindence at all and slowely I came out of my shell and remind myself that people that dont know me don’t matter, why should I care what they think, we all have our good and bad points. Why is your self confidence so low? You should try and make yourself do something that you don’t enjoy doing. Like I could never take clothes back to a shop if it was damaged, So I went ahead and done it one day and it was not as bad as I thought i would be. If you can work out why you have no self confidence that will help to know how to fix it.

Well you need to like yourself at first. You have to appreciate yourself and stand to the things you do, even if you did them wrong.
It will take its time but you will gather the courage with time when you try over again even after you self confidence shrunk back because of a failure, let it grow twice when you do something right.

Try to do things you didnt trust, until you really make it and then be proud of yourself.
And well joining a club or something like this could be good too, where you can show what you can, and have the change to talk with people about things you like, you wont have to think much about something to talk about.

Hope that helps, good luck and just try!

I joined a Drama Club, now people don’t believe I was ever quiet.

Have a look on YouTube for some self esteem and confidence-boosting exercises. Here’s something to start you off:

http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=0lTTZQw…

Type phrases like self-confidence training into search.

I found being as outrageous as possible helped - initially I acted like a complete nutter to cover up the fact that I had no self confidence, and over time my confidence grew. Drama is also a good confidence booster.

Great post. I’ve tried to happy affirmations, but didn’t work for me. The following did.

1. Succeed. Define some small goals and achieve them.
2. Make something. You want to be able to look around and see something you’ve made.
3. Have a back up plan. You can then go in boots and all.
4. Stop pretending. Stop hanging around people that you have to pretend for, and find people who accept you for who you are. Tough one.
5. Gain a little bit more independence. No matter where you at, from learning to get yourself a glass of water, getting a push bike, a job for your own money, learning to cook, moving out, running you own international project.
6. Learn a physical skill. Even going for a walk every day. If you body can do stuff, you can be confident in that. If you can add piano, or juggling, or martial arts, dance, basketball…
7. Learn to accept that failure is a part of life. Just because you’ve failed doesn’t make you a failure. Sounds kitch, but pick any person you look up too, and they will have failed something.
8. Find out out whats squashing you self confidence and remove it. Tough.
9. Focus on what you CAN do. Not what on what others can do, or what you can’t do. Acknowledge them, but do focus on them.

and my personal favorite…

10. A belly full of healthy food that you made.

Love to hear what you think…

Chunky move you give such great advise, are you going to accept my friendship or do I have to take you off my favorite list. Lynne these all sound like great ideas let us know how you get on

(off topic. thanks cakes. I think I had better go read FAQ. I had no idea about the accepting friendship thing. Just as soon as I figure out how)

Casserole, but it takes a couple of hours, I love making spagette bologgnese with loads of garlic bread. I normally google recipies or a nice roast dinner, it’s much easier than people think

Apple pie. Its so easy, tasty and a classic.

Oh yea definatlty apple pie with custard or vanilla ice cream. Season to taste so add a little then taste it and add more untill you like the taste.

Cooking is great, you can travel the world each night. Everyone got to eat, and it brings people together.

Don’t mind if your first is a flop, just learn from it and keep going. If you haven’t cooked much before you might want to try cooking a practice on for yourself, or you can be confident and just have a go. If you can fail with confidence and a laugh, you’re there.

A partner you click with, can share a laugh with, and a home cooked meal. Life doesn’t get too much better than that.

Another for the list. A pleased and loving partner. Can’t be everything, but sure can help.

Sounds like you have a lot to be confident about. Let me know how the cooking goes

it is nice to see something like this i am in my teenage years and struggle with self esteem and sometimes find days that i have to battle with myself to get through the day some days i feel like i don’t have the strength to go on i don’t have many real friends that will stick by me but i love drama i do get picked on for doing it but i really love it but the problem is i have told i have a talent for acting , but i don’t have enough confidence to pursue it , so seeing this and the advice that is given is a boost thank you.

So how are you doing now?

How did the cooking go?What did you make in the end?

you make me happy.

“happiness isn’t that complicated you know”

Thats the best story I’ve heard for a while, thanks for sharing and keep on your path.

YaaY Brilliant Hmmmm Italian casserole your making me hungry, so glad you both enjoyed it

And the sun shines through..thank you:)