Love help: She Won’t Say I Love You Back - Help.com

why don you ask her “do you love me?”

Has there been an event were she could be mad at you?

I know sometimes my ex gf said the same thing or something like it sometimes when i told her i loved her, and it was usually when she was mad at me or hurt or something like that

do you say it too much… because i used to say “i know” to the boyfriend that said it wayyyy too much. it lost its meaning after a while.

PassionateMusic wrote:
No. I don’t say it that often. I say it when the conversation goes dead or if we have been talking about a subject that was uncomfortable.

there is your problem

you are using it incorrectly, if there is such a thing!

you need to say it when you are looking into her eyes or when she makes you laugh… or just because its true sometimes. Never to fill space … because then that is what it becomes. Filler.

unnnnn as a woman, “I love you” isn’t a magic word to solve all the problems and it doesn’t mean because you love her so the relationship works.
If you guys have a subject, try to work on it first.

You need to ask her why. Tell her it makes you a little uncomfortable and uve ben wondering if theres a problem. You needa talk to her about this.

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Your problem might be like the two anons say, if you really use it mostly to fill silence…thats bad news. Its ok sometimes but certainly not only there or msotly there.

ok well then… that all sounds a bit passive aggressive.

manipulating feelings for certain responses… seems strange.

i think you should be forward and just ask if anything has changed because you sense that it has… and wait for a response patiently.

PassionateMusic wrote:
I don’t say it for filler.

If you read my other post regarding her close friend passing on, I say I love you to comfort you. I mean it when I say it, because I do love her. I say it to know that I’m there.

She usually always says it back though and all of a sudden, she won’t.
I think she likes me to be upset so she can comfort me.
She tends to do that alot…

You need to ask her why. Tell her it makes you a little uncomfortable and uve ben wondering if theres a problem. You needa talk to her about this.

As a woman, I have to say, that I would feel a little claustrophobic if a guy said I love you more then three or four times a day. It’s not going to change in a matter of hours.. it’s a little like telling someone all day.. The sun is shining, it’s a beautiful day. The first time and maybe second time on a day.. it’s great.. imagine hearing it every time there is a silent gap.

I would also be questioning if the person i love would not say he loves me back. But here is a suggestion you can try this if you can…try not to say i love you to her for the next three days or so. This is not to test or anything but this is to give her time to remember those three little words that really matter a lot. :)

you know, i had the same problem with my ex. at first we would tell eachother, “i love you” but then she stopped saying it. she told me that it was because the word “love” was too clumsy in describing her feelings and that love is always conditional. she wanted to experience the feeling without labeling it.

here’s part of an email she wrote to me. she has since broken up with me but every time i read this my heart fills with happiness…

“This is the best way I can explain this ancient feeling I have
for you. You said you loved me, but is is that necessary? I can see it in
all you do. I feel I have loved you from before now, and that I will
continue for a period for which I see no end. Perhaps you are the reason I
came here. From the moment you left Chile my soul knew it had to follow you
somehow, and meet you again even if just for an instant. You knew it, you
saw me once and that was enough. From all Canada, it was me. I hope I can
always honor you in all ways possible. Take care now, till next time.”

I have kinda the same question but heres the story.

I am a trucker. Or at least in training. I went out on the road to make more cash for my girl.

I went out and I found out later she was cheating on me. She said its because I didn’t trust her…. that is true,,, only because she was REALLY cheating on me and I found out by getting on my computer…

SO, after she cheated on me and left me I was so sad, but I went back on the road. (After finished training…. well kinda)

So while she’s with this guy he promised the world and to move her and him with is family to Tennessee. And he did…. But to a van.. In Tennessee. Ya on the street.

Keep in mind I worked like HELL to get her a car, and trailer, and gave her all my cash. I don’t really get where she says I didn’t trust her…. But she did things that gave signs. Like getting home and there was guys all at the trailer ect.

Anyway. Im out on the road single again, and I found out from a friend of hers and mine she needs help…

So me…. Called her up. And she’s living in front of the hosp.

I still love her even thou she cheated on me. So i had to help her…. AND the family and the GUY that she cheated on me with… Love is unconditional.

Anyway, she tells me that Josh “The guy” and her are broke up and that me and her should go out… But just be friends with benefits. Im just starting to get my money from being out here and getting on my feet. But I have sent her 60% of my cash.

Now we are just talking, she says I love you BUT only when not around JOSH’s family.

She says its because they are religious and does not want to say ” I love you” around josh and them.

She says she is not doing anything with anybody.

And Im just out here on the road… Giving her cash till I can come see her…

Am I a fool?