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I have a boyfriend of almost a year and half and we say we love each other.

Now i know he really loves me but i’m not one hundred percent postive i love him too. I’m not even 75 percent sure. I truly care for him and for the most part i enjoy his company, but he is very serious about out realtionship and im only 18. He says that we will be together forever and that he is going to marry me. Forever is a long time from eighteen. and i know that he is not the type of guy i wanna marry. I know that i dont even want to think about getting married. I just want more freedom and i just want to have fun. But i do not want to hurt him, and im scared to be alone. He is my first and only serious boyfriend and I dont know how I’d handle being alone again. He is jsut so convinent and his family life is rough so i know he needs me. But i jsut want to have fun.

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soc0ut offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 9 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (13 minutes after post)

I’m kind of like this guy. My girlfriend broke up with me, and I still love her.

The truth is, if you know you’re not going to marry him, then you’re kind of stringing him along. Loves you so much because you’re the rock in his life(i take it from his family issues). It will hurt him, but it might make him become independent again and everyone needs that.

Don’t be with someone out of convenience and don’t be be because you don’t want to hurt him.

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okei! offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 92 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (19 minutes after post)

But be fair to him also, girl
Make your feelings black and white, no in between
To be fair for the both of you
Maybe there is sufficient love for the both of you
It’s just a matter of time for you to realize that
Or be 100 % sure about that. who knows.
Maybe. but be fair okei, to you and to him.
Goodluck!

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (23 minutes after post)

if he rele loves you, he would understand. all i have to say is, talk 2 him. if he dumps you because of that, he ain’t worth it.

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soc0ut offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 9 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (26 minutes after post)

Realize, people do go through the grieving process. He could say things he’ll regret.

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Joey_PR offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (4 hours, 14 minutes after post)

I believe marriage at 18 is too early.

“i know that he is not the type of guy i wanna marry.”
Why be with him?

“But i do not want to hurt him, and im scared to be alone.”

(My previous question answered)
Thats selfish.
You are hurting him already, he just doesnt know it yet.
In a way you are making him live a lie in the relationship.
Be honest with him.
Dont you have a conscience?

Scared to be alone?
Being dependant on someone = not good.
Youre just 18, you still have a whole life and experiences ahead of you.
Live your life, establish yourself first, and then be in a relationship. Find someone thats on the same page as you.

Thats my opinion.

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