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well, what happened? why can’t you figure things out with her?

if u kill urself, d more u cannot be w/ her anymore

Clear me up…
A “girlfriend” is “everything” to you?
or did you lose your job and stuff?

what “silly mistake”?

Step one: Don’t be a bloody twit. Getting worked up solves nothing. Do what you need to do, ignore it for a while, pound on something, chew tree bark if you have to but settle down. Freaking out always make things worse.

Step two (must be proceeded by step one!): Think clearly. I don’t know what you did, but simple mistakes usually have fairly simple solutions. Think about the problem, think about why she or you freaked out and think a way through it. If you post the actual problem some one here may be able to help you.

Step three: Consider what has led up to this. Often small things create large problems because the problem was there to begin with. This just brought it to light. It may very well be that you and this person would do better apart or with a less serious relationship. I know right now that seems inconciveable but trust me, sometimes thats just the way things are. Again you need to be calm in order to consider this a viable option.

Step four: Give it a little time. Let things cool off. Time is going to drag by painfully slow if you try this but you have to let the world turn as it will. If you have been able to keep a clear mind to this point you will have valid conclusions as to how to proceed once you have both regained a sane state of mind.

Conclusion: Some one gave me a very useful piece of advice once; “Never make some one else your priority while they make you an option”. No one should ever be your whole world or life or whatever you want to say. If you start to idolize your partner, things will get weird (I’ve been on both ends of this. Hey, mistakes are part of life). Understand that there are more than six billion other people on this planet, and you will end up meeting and connecting with more of them than you might think. You just have to give it a chance. This person may be the person for you, maybe not. Don’t ever force a relationship to work because you’re afraid of what will happen if it doesn’t.

Anyway, just keep calm and don’t do anything foolish. It won’t fix anything and you won’t feel any better right now. And you may end up makeing things worse or feeling a mite stupid later on. Just calm down, relax, think, and act when you’re sure. That’ll get you through most problems pretty well. Good luck.

Very wise words there Kyengen.

was going to post something but have nought to add to kyengen.

i hear you that its hard right now, but hang in there.

everything Kyengen wrote was absolutely right. I went through the same as you, and trust me. it may seem like the end of the world right now, like you have nothing to live for. but i swear it gets better. it really does.
you may get more advice if you post the actual mistake/problem.
also may I ask how old you are?

I aint bovered to read Kyengen’s reply so sorry if i repeat anything..

Well you said it yoursefl. If you end your life you’ll nevre see her again but beside that, Suicide does seem the best thing to do but then you’ll never even have teh chance to move on. You’ll never know if you can do it. And even though this might sound really stupid to you but sou slowly and painfully you will eventually get over her.

Its not worth ending your life over some one else… just take life one step at a time and evem though you probably think of her every second of every minute.. one day your going to go a day without thinking about her.. and tehn you’ll see… everything will be ok.

im 23 have been with her for 8 years..thanks for all ur advice

I’ve just lost my fiancee she’s gone with a nother bloke and has told me to get out I don’t no wat to do I’ve tried killing myself and failed at it I’m usless at everything she’s the only thing that has ever made snse in my life and now she’s gone no one can help me I don’t even no why I’m posting this I’m just gonna enjoy this vodka and pain killer mix and hope that it end this pain in my hart cus this pain hurts I lost my whole family. Last year and this hurts more!!