friends help: I just like… can’t seem to be able to talk to people. - Help.com

alright buddy, the first thing u need to do it all depends on the location, if you are in a class room say , hey how are you doing? hows classes going for you? by the way my name is………..and talk about normal things, things that u would talk to with ur parents or whoever…

i have trouble socializing too. my dad bought me a book by larry king called how to talk to anyone, anytime, anywhere. it actually helped. you just gotta get out of your comfort zone and ask questions. “hey how you doin? what’s your name? i’m ___.” get them talking. then they’ll ask questions to you. don’t ask one word answered questions. ask sincere questions. and if you see a girl you’re interested in. just be honest, go up to her, ask her. i’d much rather have a guy come up and take the risk of rejection than never say anything and not know what could have happened.

Humor is a major gift. Someone taking forever to order food you simply comment “what is he feeding the army? whats taking so long huh” Just be friendly don’t over think everything. Be yourself don’t even think what your doing (socializing) clear your head and just know what your doing is no big deal at all, cause people under pressure are not very potent.

Sometimes it’s funny to just say “Wow, I have no idea what to say right now.” You both might laugh and things might get started again.

The answer is stupefyingly simple. If you’re in a group of people, eavesdrop, pick up on something they’ve said and say, “I couldn’t help but overhear…”

You don’t know what to say and you’re afraid you’ll sound stupid? Everybody worries they’ll sound stupid. Here’s your solution…

Listen more than you talk. Don’t just stand there like a retard, though. Ask questions. Conversing is more than waiting for your turn to talk.

Listen for key words and phrases in what the other person says. Ask follow up questions. Keep them talking about themselves and they’ll think you’re the coolest person ever. Be sincerely curious about them. Most people just wait for their turn to tell their story, too. Deep down, we’re all, every one of us, insecure and scared of embarrassment.

Tyler Durden said it best. “You are not special. You are not a beautiful and unique snowflake. You’re the same dying organic matter as everyone else.”

Remember what that means. Your skittishness isn’t because you’re broken or flawed or any different from anybody else. You’re just talking yourself out of interacting with other people. Try letting someone else talk, don’t worry about saying anything stupid, laugh at their jokes, and own your quirks. It’s just a matter of practice, brother.

Every one of us is that kid at the lunch table sitting by himself. Whether you spend your whole life at the lunch table alone is entirely up to you.

Sounsd like your just laking confidance.. even if you don’t think so yourself.. when you think about talking to someone do you go over and over in your head “i hope i don’t mess up..” or something like that.. well thinking like that can make you mess up and it could make you look nervous. You don’t need profesSional help, This is common.

Try finding something in common. ******** about something always keeps a good conversation going….