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Well, i think you had some bad experinces but there arent just female assholes out there. You know that really kind hearted and nice woman say exactly the same?

Dont give up searching, you’ll find a woman who really loves you and isnt a mean eater. That doesnt help you know I know but dont stop being a nice guy.

Maybe you want to tell what happened?

Nice guys don’t find good girls, they find good women.

we are not all like that! one day someone will come along and prove what you said to be all wrong.

Hi Anonymous,

Most women are not like the ones you have experienced. You have had a bad run and have apparently encountered more than your share of bad apples. You may be and probably are selecting women that are immature and thus do not have the wisdom to be honest and loving. Clearly you need to steer clear of where ever it is that you are finding these types of women. I would ask myself the following question. What is the common denominator among the women that you are finding? Do you find all of them in bars? Do you find that all of them are really young? Do you find they are visually pretty but self absorbed? Whatever your answer is that represents the common denominator among them all, is what you need to avoid the next time.

We always tend to go for the same thing, and in your case, you need to avoid the type that you seem to be attracted to. Take a little time to analyze the women you go out with BEFORE you go out with them and I am sure that things will change for you.

I remember when I was younger, I used to always go for the good looking guy, then I realized that good looking guys seem to have one thing in common, they seemed to only be concerned with themselves. I decided to start dating guys who would be considered more average, and I discovered that they were more human. I had overlooked the beauty in many guys because I was absorbed with external features.

I am certain if you give consideration to what I am saying, you will find that you are focused on some one thing, each time you find a girl, and whatever that one thing is, ie. incredible beauty or something else, you need to change your focus, because it is not what true love is all about.

Nice guys don’t have to finish last, they only finish last if they decide that is where they want to finish.

I hope that I have helped.