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I don’t know what the next step in my life is. I’m 20. When I was younger, I was happy and optimistic. I knew what I wanted and I went after it. Now, I’m about to graduate college a year early and with academic success. But I don’t know what is next, and it’s bring me so much anxiety. I hate myself for not knowing what to do.

I have some family problems on top of that. And I lost my best friend recently to an accident. Lately, I feel like my mind has been all over the place. I’ve considered being a teacher, an environmental researcher, a vet, a nurse, a freelance writer, a novelist, and a film director of all things.

I seem to love alot of things, but I can’t narrow down what I really want to do. I feel like the options I just listed fall into one of two categories–extremely realistic and stable or extremely unrealistic and unstable.

I don’t know what to do. I don’t know who I am anymore, and I’m starting to hate myself for it.

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Sasha101 offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (7 minutes after post)

What out of the listed things do you enjoy more ? the important thing for your future hon, is that you get up in the mornings and look forward to your day. There is nothing worse than working for years, and waking every morning to go to a job you don’t enjoy.
Give that some thought, then reach for the career that makes you most happy. :-)
You are probably grieving the loss of your friend to, give that time and you’ll find things will fall into place.

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (9 minutes after post)

Is it possible you’re thinking far too complex for a simple task?
This can be frustrating and can really get you down.
Think about what you’d love to do, more than anything else.
Can you see yourself still doing that in one year? five years? ten years? the rest of your life?

Hate is far too strong an emotion to brand yourself with. Take time, go for a walk, or a trip to clear your mind, and when you come back, sit and think about what you’d really want to do.

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crispychip offline Verified User (2 years, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
GB | 1 year, 1 month ago (10 minutes after post)

It must be a very hard time for you right now with the loss of your friend.

I know what you feel like. Even though I am 16 years old, I am in the same situation in a way. First year of college and I don’t know what I wanna do when I leave college!

It is a very hard decision but just think, what do you enjoy doing the most? What have you aspired to be the most?. What will get you far in life? Do you want to jump into a career right now or can you afford to have a bit of fun and time to yourself? Such as travelling and such?

I know you can do it :)

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Richard Cor de Lyon offline Verified User (2 years, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 20 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (35 minutes after post)

I recommend you taking the Myers-Briggs test. It is a personality test that is used world wide, based on the teachings of Carl Jung. This test is actually given my many employers to see if they think you are the right stuff for the job.

Go here http://www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/J…
and take the Jung Topology Test. After you get your response you follow links that will suggest careers based on your personality.

Bright blessings ~ Richard

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