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May I ask what happened?

My girlfriend left me six months ago and I’m still dealing it. I know how you feel.

Its one of the hardest things in life to deal with. The only thing that will heal you is time. I know that doesn’t seem like such a great thing right now though

tikoramo wrote:
she gave me an ultimatem. she had just moved to california and given me the false pretence that she would wait for me to move down. but after a little time went by she started to think this would never work out. i tried to convince her id do anything and everything to move down there after we were out of school. but she wouldnt beleive me. so she said she would forget all these worries and wait if i could come visit her for a week. now this is basiclly impossible since im barly 17 dont have enough money, no passport and after a few days of talking with my parents, no consenses to go. so she left me.

Sounds to me like she’s just being selfish and immature.
Does she seriously just expect you to just do everything she says, even something un-realistic? (Well if you do this, I will forgive you for that..) Um, no. Things don’t work out that way ..and the real way to fogive someone is to accept what has happened and move forward, she just plain out wants you to do favors and whatnot to basically “make-up” for what you have not done.
I know you care about her and love her, but it just sounds to me like she doesn’t appreciate you. She just wants somone to bark orders at.

Hey,

I am really sorry with what happened. From someone who has been through minor breakups and major ‘almost breakups’ i can tell you that it will be ok. It will be very hard at first but i can assure you will feel better as time heals. You will forget her, first you will forget the exact colours of her eyes, the smell of her hair, then slowly slowly she’d be gone and you can start again.

It will be ok.

Love yourself. Thats the thing you should do most.

I’m sorry but there is probably somebody better out there for you…I’m going through hard times with my boyfriend and have been recently and I know how you feel and i’m trying to pull through its depressing and all but im hoping to get over it and i hope you will find someone better

Well, I will say this. My boyfriend brokeup with me when I was sixteen and I still can’t get over it to this day. I am 23 now. And he will still not speak to me to this day! Crazyness! But the thing is that I never had the chance to talk to him and get closure so I was just left in the dark to sit and wonder. Your first love hurts the worst. Time does heal the pain, but the thoughts will always pop in your head from time to time. I understand about the shy thing…Just do what makes you comfortable bc thats what I did and once I got older I got less shy as time went by. Don’t stress over that. It will come.

We would never be hurt if we were honest to each other from the beginning, but that would take a sincere heart ! a heart felt person who knew if he(she) LIED AND CHEATED THEY WOULD BE PAID BACK ONE DAY, but most does not believe this way they just think hey here is a opportunity and with a little lie i can get some of this beauty, The heart is the most sensative organ and it was not meant to play with or be lied to, if honesty is there the heart will prosper and be so happy, but with all the dis-honest immature babies in grown up bodies out there, WATCH OUT and be careful, learn to take time and figure out if they are honest or not and the only way is through time, be patient and dont give away the pie and the cake to soon. with love—rich severson

Usually we want a good relationship so we try and make it a good one but the other one has a mind to and they might think a little different, maybe they just need a place for awhile, a freind but not a mate etc… so it takes time to figure it all out, remember never play with the heart !