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I met and fell in Love with my fiancee a year ago.

We’ve been living together for some months now. My insecurity lies in the fact that she has her attention divided in several directions; from professional responsibilities to various voluntary commitments. I DO NOT resent her for the work she does, in fact it is her compassion, drive and energy that I love. My worklife is structured, and mindless, so when I get home I feel like I smother her. Sometimes/alot of the time I feel overlooked.
My problem is that I’ve got work and home, and that’s all. Obviously I’m aware of my issues but that doesn’t help when I’m in the cycle of smother/love.

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quebec980 offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (9 minutes after post)

Perhaps you could spend more time with each other if you were to voluntarily help out with some of the commitments she is involved in?

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1 year, 1 month ago (13 minutes after post)

I agree! In fact I’ve already offered to volunteer and she does enjoy my help.
I know I need more in my mind than just work and her. Perhaps a hobby…

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