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hi just looking for advise…

at the beginning of this summer i landed a really cool job in a bar. i couldnt believe my luck! it didnt take long for me to fall into the pattern of staying behind after work for drinks. i ended up kissing on a the guys from work just befor he left for america in may. during the time he was gone i kissed 2 other guys from work. i know this sounds like im a slapper but when im drunk im really easy and any lad could have me it really worries me but i still havn learned my lesson. anyways back to present time…i was working this weekend and ended up getting really drunk after work on saturday and i totally blanked all i remember is drinking my 4th pint and then waking up in the lads house. i dont know what happened but i think i was with on a the guys from work again. the problem with this is that the guy that was in america is living in that house now and he still reaally likes me and i really hurt him by doing this! iv texted him apologising for acting foolish and hurting him but havnt heard back! the thing that gets to me the most is that im totally different when im drunk! im loud and easy and up for anything when im drunk but when im sober im just friendly, never get angry and pretty shy about guys. im still a virgin and i dont know how iv managed it but im thinkin it wont last much longer with the way im acting! i know i need to drink less and be more confident in myself but its easier said than done! it’d really help if anyone has gone through something similar or knows some1 that has and if they could tell me how it worked out and please dont judge just help! thanks!

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MF_Dancer offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (5 minutes after post)

well there are places and people you can talk to that will help with your drinking problem like an AA thing.

maybe you should try looking for a different job that will keep you away from alcohol.
i know that u seem to rele like having this job…but if you want this guy from america, then you might have to prove to him that your not just gonna get drunk all the time because you work at a bar.
or if you just want him to be your friend, just let it go, he’ll come around when time comes, let it all cool down.
hope if helps a bit.

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ktmos offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (9 minutes after post)

thanks for your reply!
finding a different job seems to be the bit of advise that keeps popping up so mabe its right! the AA thing sounds like it could help i never realised i had that serious a problem!

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MF_Dancer offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (13 minutes after post)

it might not be too serious, i mean I dont kno your whole life story. lol.
but if you want to make some kind of change with it, things like that will help
but your welcome!

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ktmos offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (18 minutes after post)

its definately time for a change i guess i just needed to hear it from a new sourse! thanks again…youv helped alot!

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