life help: My parents want to make me do things that don’t need to be done. - Help.com

just causer it is not occurring to you does not mean you should not go to help support him.
have you tried bringing your books with you and doing it while waiting?
that what i did over the times i had to go cause my bro has ADHD.

He doesn’t need help or support, he’s 15 and has very mild autism, but my parents insist on going anyway. And I don’t even go in with him, they want me to go for me, because I used to have depression problems, but I don’t need help anymore and like I say, she can’t really help me. Last time I got over it of my own accord.

I know it seems like a waste of time, i hate going myself . But its never a waste of time to talk and express feelings.So if I were you Ide try harder to participate, who knows after you do try more, you may not have to keep going. they may see you dont need it as much as they originally thought. And its not just for you, its for your whole family so try not to be selfish. What you think and say is important for your whole family. Also you give many reasons why you dont want to go, your parents probably see this as just excuses in trying to get out of it. YOur studies are so important so try express that is the main reason for not going and when your workload is lessened then offer to go with or just go with a better attitude, a attitude of being grateful for being able to go. Some kids and adults want and need help but cant get it because of different reasons. As for the waiting, bring your homework or a book or cards, something from home……..Does any of this sound like it may help?

Anonymous wrote:
He doesn’t need help or support, he’s 15 and has very mild autism, but my parents insist on going anyway. And I don’t even go in with him, they want me to go for me, because I used to have depression problems, but I don’t need help anymore and like I say, she can’t really help me. Last time I got over it of my own accord.

oh, well in that case your parents are just worrying too much over you from that past stuff.
try explaining again to them that you don’t need the help and you are fine, not to mention trying to work on homework.
if that fails, not much you can do as i see it.
will they let you bring your homework?

Well, we don’t even go in together, so it’s not a family thing, just every person in the family does it. (My mom + dad, my brother, and me) I’ve been doing it for weeks now and really trying, I’ve expressed my feelings but they won’t let me stop. It’s all pretty boring and I’m having “normal” feelings. They tell me if I don’t want to go I have to give them the reasons for my decision. I did, but they don’t think they’re good enough. And they would let me bring my homework, but as I said, a lot of it is on the computer tonight and even now I’m kind of multitasking, alternating between my science report and this.

hmm, it is hard to deal with parents like this, i have almost no clue what to do. do you regularly show fake signs of depression still? i doubt it but it could be something.
i would work on the science report now, instead of doing this and come back later though……
we will still be here.
if they are making you go today, bring what you can do with out a computer
do you have any time after it to do the report?

No, I wouldn’t fake it that would be pointless, I finished the report I’m just trying to get the dumb thing to actually PRINT now, and no, no time after.

wow, how long is it?

We’d probably get back around ten, and my parents also want me in bed by 10:30.

and when does it start?
that is pretty freaking late to be getting home!
have you tried doing absolutely nothing while there?
i think they might get the hint that it is not doing anything.
or purposely get a really bad grade and blame it on it

Once I just sat there and stared at them after telling them I had nothing to say. But I wouldn’t want to sacrifice my grades for this. They’d probably assume I was failing, claim I needed school help and get me a tutor.

:( that doesn’t work either?
man i am stumped, how old are you?
once you reach 18 you can legally leave and ignore it

I’m 14.

ah, sux.
try going with it for a while, exactly as they say, and see what happens with everything else, grades might shink a bit, and i applaud you for being young and still knowing how important it is to do it, but they have to learn as well

K, thanks.

i am sorry i am lacking in ideas, but i just went with it, mostly because my dad would get really violent when mad

instead of just taking away my computer, he found it better to remove the nerves in my face AND THEN take away my computer

Hi, well, I am a parent. How do you do to make kids listen to you? You hope by taking something from them… ie, the computer. Ok, so you are a teenager who thinks the world should be better. Ok, that’s great. You are also concerned about homework. So, you are right, you are not that bad. You should understand that a counsellor is as good as you are willing to open up and tell what really bothers you. When you are a teenager, what you go through is normal. Life sucks, world sucks, so that’s normal. A counsellor can help you out with what is normal, you are perfectly fine, and you go and say, am I fine? Is there something wrong with me? What do normal teenagers do? Well, normal teenagers go through asking questions about the world, feeling hopeless and so on. Your parents are worried, good parents are worried. The thing with the book to read is childish, you can make your own arrangements to get a book previously. You don’t like to go there, of course, especially if it isn’t upon your request, especially if you are treated like that. Your parents should have said “We are giving you the opportunity to check your emotions and feelings with a professional, who might be able to help see life in a better light, would you like to give it a try?” and accept your answer, not punish you like a little child. Your parents do not see you have grown up, maybe because you didn’t show it. Maybe if you talk to them like an adult, in normal bonding conversations, you will find out that they would appreciate and respect that. Plus there is a lot to learn from them. What did they go through at your age, what was their experience and why. How things were different then, how things got improved since?Anyway, you get the message…

dganea wrote:
Your parents should have said “We are giving you the opportunity to check your emotions and feelings with a professional, who might be able to help see life in a better light, would you like to give it a try?” and accept your answer, not punish you like a little child.

now this is what i was looking for in my head