life help: why the f**k do i bother? - Help.com

And what happened that makes you think like that?

You have the power to change it, why don’t you use it? Why waste life when is so precious? Do something useful every day, either for you to become a better person or for others to help, and in the process do not forget to live, to notice the beauty and joy around you.

So, what’s wrong with your life? What do you want to achieve? Where are you standing now?

hey, it sounds like you actually do want something, that’s a great start!

Mhm….

Well, how old are you? Do you have a job? a career?

Well…I’m 17, and I know what I want from my life, in almost every aspect, but I don’t rly think about it anymore, it’s something I’ve assimilated already….

What can I tell you?….

Think about what you rly want, what you need, and what you could use…label everything you can…
Finish your studies, and get a good job, and leave your family if they’re such a pain…
Meanwhile, you’ll gain confidence, and you’ll try and fail a couple of times till you find your path, and while you do this, you’ll probably find someone with who you share interests, or you simply like…

Be very proud of your accomplishments, and keep on going. But remember something, God made the world in 6 days and the 7th he says he would rest. You work 6 days a week and the 7th go out, do what you want, it’s your day off. Sclaves, live in nannies, servants in the the old age had a day of a week, otherwise they would burn out and not be able to keep on going. Work animals were given a break, you need one too. Every week, a day for you, even if is not all day, but something to relax, enjoy, feel happy and fullfiled. You need it, deserve it and have to have it. Just organize your life that way and force it into your family and evreyone, they will accept it, in the exchange for what good you do for them, do not worry about that. But you have to be assertive and take care of yourself.

My opionion is depression is a state of mind, that you can change your mind, you can get control over it. You, Jodie, need some love, someone to pamper and cherish you. You would think that family would give it to you, but even if it does, at your age, what am I saying, at any age, we need the love of a partner. So, I think your lack of energy comes from feeling lonely… unless you have a chemical imbalance. However, once you get up and do something fun, you will feel more energetic. I go to a movie, or invite friends for a party. That gets me busy, because I need to clean up the house, get ready, etc. So, in order to motivate yourself, you use tricks…hope this helps.

every word you said to me helped. there, one thing i know for sure was not a waste. try and let your first thought not be so negative and see how your day goes. i did this morning and im not feeling so bad today.

i don’t agree that depression is a state of mind. however, you can change it. if you don’t choose meds, therapy is fantastic. i don’t mean you have to go to a therapist, talking online here at help about the things that trigger my meltdowns helps a lot. talking is the most therapeutic strategy… even if you don’t mean what you say, you still expressed an emotion aloud. when i was younger, i would lay on my bed when i was angry and breathe deeply til i either fell asleep or relaxed to the point i almost forgot the problem. i went through a phase where i wrote down every emotion and why i was feeling it. my advice is the next thing that makes you zone out take notice and keep doing it.

Dont let your surroundings confuse you. You are lucky no matter what. do something with it or don’t but don’t question your fortune. How many worse off than you? Live with more respect for others and you will find you will want to better yourself. I hope.