friends help: I know this has been asked in some form 1,000 times, but I suppose I just want a personalized answer. - Help.com

Well can you visualize being without her, regardless for the social thing? Would it matter to you to see her with someone else? Why do you fell you lost interest? The marriage thing? M aybe you just don’t want in a commited relationship with any one at your age. How long have you been feeling this way? Your friends should still remain your friends regardless. Surely they aren’t your friends based on your being with this mutual friend :) I agree, you need to be honest and lay your cards on the table. Not doing so is unfair to her and to you…

I recommend renting a pair of cajones, having them grafted to your body, and once your testoterone has been restored to normal levels and you build up some courage, tell her the truth. It doesn’t really matter what your family, friend, pets, and acquaintances think, do what you feel is right for you. It’s as simple as that.

Are you still in school? THere’s plenty of life out there to experience. The sooner you confront this thing head on, the better you will feel. The longer you avoid this, the more anxious you will be. The sooner you deal with this, the sooner you will be able to face many more challenges that will be coming in your future. Every challenge you accomplish makes you stronger for the next one.

Maybe you want to know if this girl really is the one for you. Maybe you realize you don’t have the same goals or she isn’t as ambitious as you are. Think about what it is that is causing the problem then arrange a meeting with her and tell her it’s over.

You’ll be stronger in the end.

I’m married and me and my wife don’t get along…The truth is in all my relationships get to that point….At first it’s always nice….Getting to know someone…First dates new stories to hear and tell…You may meet someone else and get to this same point…So before you dump her make sure…Good woman are hard to find

Either you respect each other and want to help each other discover and reach each other’s goals or you are not aligned. If you are not aligned, give it up. Find someone who you are willing to invest time and patience and effort in to help her be the best woman she can be, someone who will help you be the best man you can be. If you each are helping each other reach your goals, tha tis love. Anything else is a waste of time.

You want a personalized answer so you asked anonymously on this site so some stranger who doesn’t know you can answer?

“and to be totally honest, I’m just not in to her anymore.”

“I just can’t tell whether I have simply lost my feelings for her or whether that initial spark of a new relationship has dwindled away.”

I think the former part of your post answers the latter.

I have been in some similar tight spots. My parents fall head over heals in love with any girl I bring through our front door which is why I try and not introduce women to my parents for as long as possible in a relationship now. I have found however that they can see these women as having faults and not right for me in retrospect, maybe yours will be the same.

As far as friends, I don’t know. I have seldom had a breakup or heard of a breakup where the two people don’t wind up having a rule of avoiding that person, which can put an unfair stress on friends who tend to clump together in cliques. However if you don’t love this girl anymore you are going to have to break up with her eventually.

All I know from my own experience is that the longer you wait, the harder it is going to be, and when you do break up, make sure you plan it in advance including what you are going to say because it will probably be repeated and taken out of context. Also do it in a neutral place that is neither your house or her house, but preferably close to her house, and be sure not to be intimate first.

My son had the same Girl Almost for 6 years, i definitely thought they are getting married. One day he decided to go on a Contiki Tour through Europe.as it turned out he decided to go to Africa after the tour through Egypt Right down to South Africa . After that he decided to go through India ,were he met my daughter in law today .She came from Australia and traveled through India as a Photographer for varius magazines .Just telling you ,there is always a way out…

absence makes the heart grow fonder, spend some time away from her before you figure it out