Love help: I feel so helpless and empty.

sieiistallei

I feel so helpless and empty.

I feel so insignificant. I loved a boy but he didn’t love me…it’s been almost a year yet I can’t go through one day without thinking about him. It’s so painful… I know everyone goes through this, but I had no idea it would hurt so much. My boyfriend loves me, but I can’t love him. I want to, but I just can’t. I know I’m lucky to have someone to love me, but I still feel so lonely. I feel like God has forgotten about me… I feel like my existence is irrelevant. My dad is at home so lonely and sad, he sits in front of the tv all day by himself. I can only come home on weekends because I have to go to class and make good grades so I can get into medical school, otherwise I’ll disappoint my family. And I want them to be proud of me… because that’s all I can offer them. I don’t know when my life got this way. I don’t know at which point, which decision I made that brought my life to such a decrepit state. I don’t know why I had to be so different… why was I made like this. Please I don’t know what to do anymore. I feel like I’m just going through life to go through it. It’s lost its meaning to me. What is the point when all the people you care about are unhappy, when you’re unhappy, when you have absolutely no reason to wake up in the morning anymore.

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cbgocart19 6 #
Laguna Niguel, CA, US | 1 year, 1 month ago (2 minutes after post)

u love a other guy right

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Hybrid Theory 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (5 minutes after post)

I’m sorry that happened to you. You’re right, almost everyone goes through it at one point. But you have to find a reason to get up in the morning. What about you’re boyfriend? he loves you, but you can’t love him. Do you ever think that you’re doing to him what the other guy did to you? i.e., having a relationship with someone who loves you when you know you dont love them, leading them on. So maybe you can understand how your ex-boyfriend felt. Understanding begets forgiveness, and forgive ness is the first step to getting over him. If you’re still sad or angry over it, it will just take that much longer.

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newestbree 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (5 minutes after post)

Take a good look at yourself and focus on the things you like. Focusing on these positive attributes will help you re-connect yourself. I have been feeling the same way because of a past relationship I just got out of. Things will get better, but I think that focusing on a past fancy might not be the way to go. You might feel bad for other reasons…do you?

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Dan TL 1 #
La Mirada, CA, US | 1 year, 1 month ago (7 minutes after post)

Well if you don’t love someone DO NOT lead them on and let them think you do I hope, tell you BF “sorry but my feelings towards you have changed” break it off before it gets worse. If you know he doesn’t love you, you admitted it to him and he said no then, you have to know that hes going to be out with other females the really mean something to him. Find someone that means something to you and you to him. nothing worse then being in a relationship for the wrong reasons. Do not worry, this isn’t how life is always going to be, hang in there solve the problems with the greatest threat and work down from there. Plot it out and hang on cause that is what life is about, its like another epic story like the Odyssey (only even longer). I believe you can do it just take em out one at a time and stand your ground.

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newestbree 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (8 minutes after post)

Also, Med school is tough and takes A LOT out of you. I know from experience just how rigorous it is. Take time to rest and make sure you are eating healthy. With all of this crap happening in the news and the advent of 24-hour news, it is easy to get distracted. Stay focused on that med school!!!

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sparckeey 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (9 minutes after post)

ok this is a tough situation..

firstly, your parents should love you and be proud of you no matter what…
for example, my family, i have one sis who went to uni, another who didnt, yet they are equally proud of both..

don’t spend your time doing things to impress others, because thats where life becomes dull and boring and you lose interest in waking up in the morning…you wanna continue your sleep forever…

find your own interests, follow them, and let the world become your oyster, as they say….also you need to end the relationship with your boyfriend or find your love fast, it is unfair to continue a relationship like that, and have him think you love him when you no longer do….it may be extremely tough, but it is a must do….
that is one of the first steps you must take, because hiding your loss of feelings to your boyfriend could be a cause to you feeling your life is dull atm

Flatline 2 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (21 minutes after post)

Don’t sweat going to med school to please your parents. Let’s be honest, they’re going to need more than you going to med school to feel better about themselves. And don’t worry about being honest with your boyfriend. The lie your living with him is causing you more pain than you may realize. He deserves to know the truth and you’ll feel better (not worse) when you tell him the truth. Striking out on your own again to find the right guy for you may be hard, but it’s not going to be a rerun of your dad’s life. He has stopped trying for the moment. You won’t. Good luck!

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (25 minutes after post)

I would like to offer a suggestion. You can not solve a single problem or love anyone until you take a little time away from people. It looks like you have placed yourself around people who are unhappy and they are sapping the life out of you. Change your environment start to put positive people in your life. Ask God to place you around health families and marriages. Then you will see the people around you start to change because they see the changes in you. God Bless you.

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Felicity 8 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (8 hours, 23 minutes after post)

I totally agree with all Dan said, Its unfair to yourself and this guy to continue as if there is love in your heart.

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