social help: How do you build social skills if no one will invite you to gatherings because you lack social skills? - Help.com

Just take it slow brother. Slowly start talking to people. Find something that you have in common with different people and talk about that. For example, Joe might be into sports, so you can talk to him about your local team, or Bob might be into skating, so you can talk to him about that. And you’ll see that slowly but surely people will come around and you’ll start getting invited to all the events and gatherings.

find something that you are interested in/would like to improve and see if you can find a club or a group to join (dont wait to be invited to something)
e.g. salsa lessons, judo classes, diy classes, toastmasters
You will have plenty of chances to practise your social skills when meeting new people
(you already have something in common with them)and chances are there will be club socials /going out events too

Some clubs will be more social than others…the key is to try a few

Hope that helps

the next step would be to follow the first post …. eg if you are judo class and you get talking to joe the sports fan … you now know your next conversation topic :)