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I was married in 1995 for about 4 years. Had 2 children who are now 14 and 12. My wife and I split in 1999. The divorce was long. Mostly about custody and betrayal on my end. We ended up splitting custody after thousands of dollars. I was devestated. She had cheated and left for something better. As time went on things got easier. In 2003 my ex and I had a one night stand. Alcohol and timing. I acted like it was a one night stand. I ignored her, but all of a sudden I was having all these old feelings resurface. I was lost. I thought I put all this to rest. I was thinking of her and missing her again. I ******* believe this. She started to call more and then shortly there after she wrote me a long letter apologizing (?) for our past. It was the first time she had ever apologized. I didn’t respond to the letter. I went to talk to her one night. This was all in the time frame of about 3 months. We decided to go with our feelings again. It has now been 5 years since we have been back together. We remarried a year and a half ago. We were a much more mature and stronger couple than we were years back. I love this women. I am now 40 and she is 36. Same b-day. We started a business together and I usually work longer hrs. This year she took a part time gig with her sister working 4 night weekends out of town. Originally it was only going to be a couple. The money was good and she picked up a couple more.She started to enjoy them. I felt things were starting to change at home. In September is when things started to get bad. I started questioning her and she hates that. I was just acting on my gut. I did find her makeing phone calls to one of the dance instructors. Not long calls, but too many. She said they were only friends. She told me she talk to him and ended the calls. Also on the same trip her sister who takes care of a lot of the arrangements, had her sleep in a room with a male worker. That was also hid from me. She tells me she new nothing would happen and didnt want to worry me. Anyway a couple more trips happened. My insecurities grew. I would question her by text. Soon the texting was anger. The last trip she did was recent and I asked her not to hang outh with this insructor off her business time. She said I would never tell you who you can hang out with. I told her just him. I said you crossed the line with him and just didn’t feel comfortable if you were spending time together. I then went further to tell her if you do we r done. No response. She cut off most of the communication. I was pissed and hurt and told her her stuff would be in the garage. I had ended our relationship with words a few times the last few weeks. I see now I didn’t mean it. I was trying to hurt her. Wrong I know. I until recently still looked for signs of something. I found this guys number a few times with no name hooked to it. An address once with no name hooked to it. She sometimes picks up everyong and takes them to the airport. So it is possible the address was for that??? Just looks odd when there is no name hooked to the address or phone #. Looks like she was hiding it? She is so angry now that her heart is hardened and she can’t do this anymore. I am told I don’t trust her and she can’t handle me snooping through our phone records. I agree its wrong but things felt fishy. What if she right and nothing is or has happened, why cant she work on us. Can someone give me a different perspective. Preferably a female one. I do love her and my kids would have a lot of trouble doing this again. I have scars from our first marriage, but they are closed. I did trust her. I am concerned now of some things that were kept from me. For the record, I am a husband who cherrishs hanging out with my wife on weekends. Thats our time and our family time. I am not perfect by any means but just reading some of these stories I can’t believe how many dead beats are out there. Thank you for listening.
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