Love help: well this is kind of a long question but im really confused right - Help.com

break up. If he loves you. He will come back.
If he doesn’t. You are better of the way you are. But only if you break up!

Wow - he’s avoiding you hardcore. I think you should give him a taste of his own medicine and find better things to do than call him contantly. He’s trying to tell you without telling you that he wants distance from you, and maybe just for awhile. My advice is to allow yourself to accept that maybe your relationship is ending, cry about it, scream about it and start the process of moving on to better things. Good luck…

I agree with Pharriesan. He seriously doesn’t want to talk to you. He is avoiding you badly. Sounds like he wants a break, but he doesn’t really know how to tell you straight to your face in fear of hurting your feelings.

By continuously calling him, it will probably just make him back right off, and you could possibly lose him for good.

It may not be a very publicised fact, but boys do confide in their mothers, and it sounds like she has gone into defense mode. She knows somethin is up, so she is putting a barrier between you and him to stop him from being hurt.

The pain of being ignored by him will hurt… Lots. But you will need to have a hard long think about the whole situation, and prepare yourself for the fact that he may not return. Do you have your own parents you can confide in ? A friend ? Someone you trust ?

Time to cut and run. If he doesn’t have the backbone to face you, he’s not worth your time.

I agree. Not a very nice thing to do at all.

Leave you hanging and run behind mum and hide.

He must be young is he ?

Good advice

kelseyg42 wrote:
yeah my mom wants me to break up with him…. hes 16 btw.. i just dont know what all the sudden happened my mom thinks i should just ignore him and let him call me and then break up with him if needed

It’s time to let go, he is ready to move on and you should be too. It’s hard at first but just think - In about 3 days you’ll realize what an a$$ he was and stop feeling so hurt by him. Do yourself a favor and resist the temptation to talk or call him. You need to dive into everything else life has to offer - there are tons other than a sh*tty b/f. I do know. Easy to say, hard to do but has to be done. Just keep telling us and we’ll keep you busy.

kelseyg42 wrote:
yeah he used to be a pretty good guy….I talked to him yesterday and he said he dosent want to break up with me i really dont know if hes just saying that or he really means it, im getting tired of this game..i might just break up with him or talk it out but i dont know if that will work anymore…one of the main things that i dont want to break up with him is all the good times weve had

Good times or not - how are you feeling now? Does all this back and forth crap make you feel good? There are plenty of other people to have good times with, but it doesn’t mean they have the right to wipe their feet all over you and expect you to take it. Forgive when you should, don’t allow yourself to be a doormat. I had fun with some exes… but I still broke up with them. Glad too, It gave me the opportunity to find the one I was supposed to be with, and when we need each other we support each other. Relationships should be reciprocating, not just give and give and never get. You’ve poured your heart into him and he’s just taken it for granted. So give yourself some distance for now, show him that you can be without him and if you get back together it will be for the better, you’ll have strength and knowledge that you don’t deserve pain for being able to love.

Kelsey, a bit of tough love here, but.. he’s either really sick on the instances you pointed out, or he’s avoiding you and not only he lieing to you but having others lie to you as well. Is this really what you want to be around? Personally I have no use or place in my life for liars.

i would say dump him but i know what it feels like to be dumped so keep trying and something good will come out of it . amd hey i guess his mom really is a ***** cause she doesnt a=want you to see him and she doesnt want him to be happy