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Hi everybody !

I am new to this website.

Me and my family need help regarding a very delicate issue. My grandmother of 87 years (my mother’s mother) has been living with us for the last 9 months. She is really rude and mean, and we cannot cope with her anymore. She spits food on the floor and throws bread and tea out of the window into our front garden. She is surrounded by deep jelousy for my mother because she always wants all my mother’s attention on her. My mum can’t talk to me or my father, because she starts screaming that she wants to go away. We cannot even go out to some party or something and leave her at home, beacuse she does not stays alone. Even if my mother goes shopping for 5 minutes and leave her alone at home, she starts shouting for other people from the window and tell them that she wants a ladder to escape. She is so humiliating !! She even open on us if we are in the bathroom or bedroom. At night she starts speaking on her own and saying and wishing horrid to things to us, especially to my mother. I don’t even fell comfortable anymore in my own house.

My mother is so depressed ! She has to stay at home everyday, like my grandma’s nanny giving her tea every hour,taking her out for a walk and washing her. My mum is 63 years old and is getting tired of all this and doesn’t even get respect back. We have already written my grandma to an elderly’s home but she has not been accepted yet.

Any ideas of how we can calm/ control my grandma and try to convince her how to live in harmony with us ?

Thank you.

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