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Need advice - My father in law has taken our life savings, and is stringing us along about repaying us.

I’m not sure if we’ll ever see it again! Here’s the story: My husband and I had $50,000 saved up for a house that we weren’t touching until we were ready to buy. Most of the money came from inheritances from my family. My father in law, a real estate developer, asked us to invest in a project at a 15% interest rate, and assured us we would have the money in about 3 months. I was against it, but my husband wanted to forge a closer relationship with his father, so we agreed to the investment. Long story short, it has been 1 1/2 years, the project has fallen through, and our in laws are waiting for their house to be foreclosed on and declare bankruptcy. We have a written contract, but my husband says that if we sue now, then the bankruptcy courts will go after us later. I am angry, hurt, sad, you name it. My father in law acts as if nothing is wrong, does not make apologies for the situation, and I cannot continue to be cordial at family gatherings. How do I handle this? Get a lawyer? (we do not have much extra money.) Cut off all ties? (we have two children - their grandchildren.) My husband, though devastated by the situation, is on the same page as me. Any advice would be appreciated.

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (12 minutes after post)

I don’t understand how if you sue them that the bankruptcy courts can go after you.

Once you’re paid, you’re clear. Of course, if they are ordered to pay you, and don’t have the funds, you become creditors. Once all is said and done, you may get 10 cents on the dollar, but it’s better than nothing, isn’t it?

I would start the process ASAP. If you come along after bankruptcy, you may get nothing.

As for how to deal with it….I would avoid him. Your mother-in-law had nothing to do with it, right? You could always meet her with your kids, and let her take them for the afternoon, rather than actually seeing him.

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (2 hours, 18 minutes after post)

Hiring a lawyer for minor legal problems can be expensive, but there are websites like LawGuru, FindLaw and other places where you can get free legal advice. I found this website useful - http://www.uelp.org/freelegal.html

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