marriage help: Does anyone have faith in a long distant relationship?

call-me-Ny

Does anyone have faith in a long distant relationship?

after your spouse has cheated once or twice? is there still faith when you get over it and you both decide to move on with your relationship and build off of the mistakes he made…?

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berta 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (1 minute after post)

once-maybe. twice is no longer a learning experience

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babacup 8 #
Indianapolis, IN, US | 1 year, 1 month ago (3 minutes after post)

I think if a person has cheated once, a marriage can stilled be saved, but it will take a lot of work by both people to make it work. But if it has happen more then once, It shows that they do not care enough to make it work. The relationship just needs to end.

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call-me-Ny 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (4 minutes after post)

why do you say that? i say once a mistake twice a habit, but i learned to put it in the past and keep faith ONLY because he knows what he did was wrong and was not worth loosing me and a good relationship with the one he loves who has never cheated and never will

call-me-Ny 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (6 minutes after post)

i forgot to mention that is didnt happen over a period of time just cheated with two diff girls within like i dunno 2 months of our relationship, and neither one was a relationship just a stupid mistake he beats his self up for til this day

berta 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (7 minutes after post)

this changes the answer i would have to your other post, you don’t need to settle down with this young man. he can tell you that he knows it was wrong but that may not stop him the next time

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call-me-Ny 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (9 minutes after post)

yes i do understand that but i think actions speak louder than words and his actions show me that he is sincerly sorry and apologetic for his mistakes which leads me to think and have faith in our relationship still

babacup 8 #
Indianapolis, IN, US | 1 year, 1 month ago (13 minutes after post)

How long have you been together and how long ago did he cheat?

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Fuzzy Pepper 66 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (13 minutes after post)

If he is so sorry….why is the relationship a “long distance” one?

or even a “long distant” one…?

Whichever you meant….if it is “long distance,” he should be doing all HE can to meet YOU where YOU want to meet and bridge the gap.

If it is “long distant” as in you are saying that you are “distanced” (physically, emotionally) from each other now, then he should be doing all HE can to meet YOU where you want to meet and bridge the gap.

He’s the cheater, not you….

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berta 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (13 minutes after post)

I have a friend who has been with her man for 10 years, and even though he says hes sorry, cries, begs on knees for forgiveness, buys her gifts. it is a repeating cycle for multiple times. all long distance does is provide him with the oppurtunity cuz you won’t be there to find out, but only you can make the decision. if you trusted him you wouldn’t have brought it up.

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call-me-Ny 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (17 minutes after post)

we have been together for almost 3 yrs and have none each other for 4, im sorry i mean long distant as i see him every other weekend not a problem there, just wish he didnt have to go away to school im also spoiled and used to being around him all the time and trust he does everything to the q to make up for what he did, and i do trust him its just hard me being so young and what happened happened only 6 months agao, still in my mind of corse

call-me-Ny 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (19 minutes after post)

its not really an issue him being away cause i see him alot, im just used to always being with him and i miss him alot and i pray that are relationship will grow and that he really learned from his mistake and i ask God to never let it happen again and to guide us both in the right direction as far as our relationship and school, we both are full tim students by the way, hes at school on a football scholarship

Fuzzy Pepper 66 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (19 minutes after post)

OK, I still say: if he was truly sorry, he would GO TO YOU!!! Not the other way around!

You are soooo convenient for him. You are his #1 chick….maybe. When you are around, you are. But in the meantime, he is playing. And he’s doing it while still keeping you around because maybe he thinks that you will be a ‘perfect wife….’ someone who will ‘look the other way’ for the duration of the marriage.

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call-me-Ny 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (25 minutes after post)

I guess this is when i say my fav “Everyone is opinionated” because i know our relationship better than the outside person and i dont agree with what you are saying, not saying i dont appreciate your input but i have my own beliefs just because of the simple fact that i am the one in the relationship and i know him better than you or anyone else that has dated him. but i do deeply appreciate everyones advice and opinions. thank you again

Fuzzy Pepper 66 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (27 minutes after post)

well, good luck; and you’re welcome :)

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