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it is quite possible that it may have been too soon for her. maybe the initial thought excited her, but after thinking it thru a little more, decided she wasn’t ready. or maybe you did misunderstand.

what you need to do is confront her about this mixed message thing. it’s not fair for her to do something like that, and if she doesn’t realize she’s doing it, she can fix it. if she continues the mixed messaging, it may be better to stop spending so much time with her, because it will only hurt you more.

ending a friendship is rough. if you have to do that, then gather up all your willpower and do it. surround yourself with other friends.

as for the suicide thing.. i don’t know what your situation is, but just don’t do it. you will thank yourself later in life.

spend time outdoors, even if it’s just lying in the grass :)

hey jack,
so i’m not a girl but i sympathize with your situation and i’ve kinda been there myself. my best advice for you first is that NO to suicide. i also had one night where i wanted to commit suicide over a girl. luckily, i couldn’t find enough drugs to o.d. on and i didnt want to make it gruesome, so i didnt. but i was at the point too. afterwards (and this was a long afterwards) and with my personal reflection, i realized that no matter how much i cared for her, it wasnt worth it. she was and thank goodness still is my best friend. i tried breaking up the friendship also and was such a bad mistake. not worth losing a good friend over, especially if you really care about her. what really helps is just seeing the fact that although you don’t want to admit it, right now may not be the right time to be interested in her. don’t “give up” on her, just put your feelings off for a bit. if it turns out that you absolutely can’t get over her, tell her in person exactly how you feel and see if it works. if not, friendship is not a bad route at all. hopefully, if you’re in high school, college will come and the change in scenery will do wonders. good luck!

girls tend to change their mind ALOT trust me on this one , but dont feel hurt because im sure she doesnt know what she wants and if she isnt ready then stay friends, dont jump to conclusions thats the worst thing to do because then you make up your mind and you are going to believe what you THINK is true and it may not be true… just stay cool for a little while things will mellow out soon. and about suicide , although it is completly your choice, you live for your self, people in africa die everyday because they cant afford food dont end your life no matter what the reason is because your hurting everyone around you and the pople who do love you.

You sound like your depressed and at times suicidal, yet you want opinions about this girl. Do you feel your healthy enough to take this relationship to a different level? Is it because of this girl, not knowing for sure how she feels, that’s making you feel depressed ? Your own happiness should not revolve around this girl. It takes time for some girls, to move from the friendship level to boyfriend/girlfriend. She may just want things to go slowly. When and if she wants more from this friendship, I’m sure she will let you know. Just be your charming self, and don’t bring up the subject anymore. She knows how you feel. Let her have time to access the situation and stay hopeful.

Oh my gosh Jack, been there and done that…and my friend, I’m 61 years old and too this day remember my first love. She broke my heart…two-timed me! Went out with one of my friends behind my back…loll..

Now, as you get older, you will find that there are many people that you can love. Not always the one you love, would make a good partner for life. You will take a more mature approach as you get older.

But for now, understand your pain. Just remember girls are like buses, one comes along every 15 minutes. So, if this one does not work out, there will be another one.

Jack, I’m dealing with the same thing right now. It was about 5 months into the friendship that I told her I liked her. After that things kinda got awkward, but for the most part things went back to normal. Then about 2 months later she started looking at me differently like she liked me back. It didn’t last long basically because their was another guy she had been seeing the whole time when we where friends. I look at it this way - I got my foot in the door by telling her how I feel and now I’m just gonna wait.(could be a long wait)
Feelings do change over time so maybe one day she’ll feel the same. As seas light says, go back to being yourself, don’t talk about it, and have fun with her.. maybe she’ll realize that she does like you.

You should do something about that depression..get some professional help.
Remember, when you’re feeling good it will be much easier to capture her heart.

I hope things turn out the way you want them to with the girl.
Keep us posted Jack.