Love help: I am in love with an inmate.

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I am in love with an inmate.

I don’t know why or how but that is it. I am a graduate level professional and I have trouble just making it from day to day and he has more than a year left to serve. I want my life back before the love before he meant everything to me before I realized I would give up all my wordly goods for him.

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Richard Cor de Lyon 20 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (3 minutes after post)

Take it back then. Is there a problem? I understand it’s hard to leave a love behind, but I would think he’s hurt you pretty bad.

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WashuChan 3 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (12 minutes after post)

If you want to get over him, then do it. But dont contact him. It will hurt, its normal and you will want him back again at some point. But you need to be stronger than that. Just be confident that you can do it and go for it! It takes alot of guts and bravery to say to yourself and others that you dont want a man you love anymore.

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littlenick 152 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (27 minutes after post)

How did you meet this inmate!

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courtybubble 172 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (39 minutes after post)

whats he in jail for? think about that and you should be able to get over him pretty quick. he didnt get there for picking someone elses flowers.

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Anonymous #
1 year ago (1 hour, 32 minutes after post)

He is in there for receiving stolen property. I do not contact him - he does not contact me - leav9ing him behind is not the problem. Stop thinking and wanting him is the problem. I met at school.

chev.jame 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (1 hour, 49 minutes after post)

It seems that he was thinking of other things than you . . . such as how to make a dishonest living on property taken from others. Life is about choices. He made the wrong ones, the kind that separate you from civilized society. Yes, such people do from time to time turn their lives around. Very often, however, they don’t. Make sure that you don’t feel you can “rescue” or “change” him. That’s a path to personal destruction.

rosebea 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (2 hours, 7 minutes after post)

I know the path I am on. I just want to understand it and deal with it.

Anonymous changed the tags on this post: they were "Love, life, Professional, good, trouble, Level, Left, Graduate, Serve, Inmate" 1 year ago.

chev.jame 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (5 hours, 47 minutes after post)

You realize, of course, that friends and family members will undoubtedly express grave regret at your decision. He will be severely handicapped in getting a job, particularly in the job environment we have today. You can more or less forget having his name on any mortgage or loan papers. The greatest question might be, where is your relationship if there is no contact between the two of you?

rosebea 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (6 hours, 58 minutes after post)

in my head of course, and that is the most powerful place it could have landed!!

hartie1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (2 weeks, 1 day after post)

I totally disagree with chev.jame. My loved one served a total of 12 years for a drug bust he would not give up the big guy so more unless he took all the time. He has been out for 7 years, just finished parole, we bought a house his name is the primary holder and he has a great telecommunications job. On all his applications he puts down in “have you ever been arrested befor” will explain at interview. I know how hard it is. WE all make mistakes, some of us pay for them and some of us get away with them..Dont judge a book until you have opened your own. My life went on we have 4 kids I own my own business and put myself through college full time at night. It was hard and holidays and summer days sucked but I loved him and would not want the love of my life to turn their back on me if I made a mistake and had to pay the price.

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chev.jame 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (2 weeks, 1 day after post)

I’m glad it worked out for you, Hartie1. I believe, however, that your husband is one of the exceptions, not the “rule.” And I hope that our poster will go into this situation with both eyes open if she decides to pursue the relationship, and that she won’t do so in order to “change” him. That NEVER works.

By the way, Hartie1, what’s the “big guy” up to these days? I hope he’s still not dealing drugs!

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