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I think I need help, but I’m too apathetic and afraid to seek it.

I’m almost constantly depressed and anxious, and I’ve been this way for most of my life (with journals to prove it). I’m very seldomly truely happy, and usually fluctate between flatout depressed and or anxious, to simply being bored and mildly discontented. I have very low amounts of energy and interest and I spend much of my day thinking over my life and what to do about it. I don’t really do much else. No real hobbies or anything. I’m also very nervous in virtually all social situations, and it causes me to lose friends and act antisocially, even when I’m trying very hard not to. And it’s painful because I often get invited to places, only to melt down and lock up in my own fear. Now I think quite a lot and have known about my issues for a long time. I analyze them in every possible way and have been to the far corners of religion, philosophy, and psychology in an attempt to solve them, with little success. I realize that very few people live this way, and those who do rarely have episodes that span years of time, like myself. I really just would like this to end. I want to fix my life and become more normal. But I have no idea what to do. Help?

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sonicstep offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (20 minutes after post)

I think you’d be surprised by how many people actually do feel the same way as you do. I think it always helps to try and connect with others on a loose basis. I know you said you have issues because people turn away from you because of your nerves, but taking it one step at a time helps a lot too. I think this is a great start for you. You’re posting for an online community to see. See what connections you make.

Also, there’s a website that deals with these life issues that not only but everyone deals with. Check it out because it has some videos talking about the same stuff you just talked about and how they are dealing/have dealt with it.

http://www.justlife.tv/category.php?s…

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shaz.squea offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (37 minutes after post)

i know but we have to exist but it can be so tedious but we all here for something so hopefully just think of others worse off thats the only thing i think! hope u ok reach out to others forget yourself for now x

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rosebea offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (1 hour, 22 minutes after post)

Normal is somthing society has dreamed up. Believe it or not you are the normal one. There are so many like you and like me for that matter that honestly can not get past whatever it is that keeps us constantly feeling like “I will be glad when this is over”.

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vicious_circle13 offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (7 hours, 14 minutes after post)

I wish i could help you with this all I can say is i can relate 100%. therapy doesn’t seem to be helping and it seems apathy takes over more and more. I have found though that accepting the Apathy actually helps me on everything else such as the depression, anxiety an the will to live. Like rosebea said normal really doesn’t exist it’s word with no true defienition. For what is normal to me may not be normal for anyone else. Talking about it helps to an accent, learning to work with the apathy which is what i have spent the last couple of months focusing on accepting has really helped me to be able to live with myself. I know this may not help you at all but I read your post and felt like you had written my thoughts and feeling down for me. Good luck and if you find a better solution, let me know I would love to fill like those around me seem to feel.

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Sigurrós offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (11 hours, 4 minutes after post)

It probably took allot of courage to write that down, to post it.. it’s a small step, you want to be normal; what does that mean to you, what has to change for you to be “normal” to be able to accept yourself?

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An Unknown Location | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (11 months, 3 weeks after post)

I have always been a very happy person up until 2 years ago. I had a life changing experience trying to quit doing drugs. I have always been a loner and tried going to rehab to quit doing drugs, but having to interact with the other addicts in the rehab gave me anxiety so I had to leave. Instead of going to rehab to quit doing drugs I moved 6 hours away and locked myself in the house. I have been sober for two years. I have been depressed since I quit doing drugs and I also have a disconnection from people not just strangers anymore, but people who are very dear to me. I can’t get a job because of my job history is pretty much lacking because I was out of work for so long and I guess no one wants to take that chance. I have made my boyfriend hate me by not going to his family functions because I would rather stay in bed and be depressed. It is very hard for me to get out of bed and start the day when I know all I have to look forward to is anxiety. I feel like I’m lacking passion and interest in things that I know I use to care about. Is this treatable? Does this sound like apathy?
I have been clean from drugs for two years and I thought that I would be back to normal by now and atleast be a functioning member of society. If anyone comments thanks for your post. :) I need someone to talk to, I feel like I have no one.

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