Love help: I am honestly so scared. - Help.com



This post left anonymously

I am honestly so scared.

Im a honor roll student. I volunteer my free time with non profit organizations. I have never gotten drunk or done drugs. I am such a good teenager with so many good relations. I just got accepted into three different universities to pursue my career. Im friendly and understanding and have a great acceptance for all people.
I have a wonderful wonderful boyfriend. He loves me and I love him. Allot. We make eachother priorities, and never have a wavering moment or doubts with eachother. He is already in post secondary to become a engineer. Handsome, smart, goodlooking, well off, caring understanding… the perfect boyfriend.
Sounds like we have this wonderful little Cinderella story happening…
One night we got intamate. And we were both okay, and we both love eachother to the ends of the earth, and we were both ready.

And now in the middle of our wonderful little lives, along the way somewhere there must have been some slip up, becuase I fear that I am pregnant.

We both have such high asperations in life. We had everything going our way. Perfectly. And now this could change the course of everything.

Im extremely lost, scared, confused, and am in dire need of some sort of guidance.
as a last note, I have missed my last period, I have not taken a test yet.

This open post was written 1 year, 1 month ago | V/U/S: 231, 14, 12 | Edit Post | Leave a reply | Report Post


Reciprocity (0) Reciprocation Failure -- The poster has NOT helped anyone else yet!

Since writing this post Anonymous may have helped people, but has not within the last 4 days.

Post Tags (10)

Replies (14)

Where were you?

Click and drag to move the map around. FAQ: How we place people on this map »
You can also watch events on Help.com as they happen
Mouse over the map for 2 seconds to see an expanded, interactive view

angelblueeyes01 offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (3 minutes after post)

Take a test, it will either ease your mind or at least give you some direction on what to do next. Don’t wait any longer. Take the test.

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators
This account has been deactivated.
Peter-Individual offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (6 minutes after post)

Take a test and then another to be posotive
not like posotive but you know whta i mean

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators
Help me with: HELP!
utfuelcel offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (7 minutes after post)

The first most important thing at a time like this is for you to confide in someone you trust, even if it is a close friend. Secondly, you need to have all the information you can have as SOON as possible. I would advise a doctor rather than a test, just to avoid ambiguity. Even a school nurse might give better information that just Google or tests.

Lastly, women can miss periods due to stress (such as finals/tests). But not a reason to avoid tests/doctors.

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators
This account has been deactivated.
disgruntled offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (9 minutes after post)

Poster, please go to your doctor and take a test there. Talk to them, they will advise you on options to take, and also for the future advise the best kind of contraceptive for you.

Do not worry. Many women have erratic cycles. Mine didn’t become regular until I was 24! utfuelcel is right, women can miss periods for all sorts of reasons. Stess, which is then increased by the thought of a potential pregnancy, is a big reason for your body to cease up.

Go see your doctor! and Good luck xx

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators
laurenbeast offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (15 minutes after post)

You should relax and think this over.
Did you or didn’t use a condom?
I doubt it broke.
I can’t believe you wouldn’t, if you’re such a smart girl.
Anyway…
Don’t freak out about it.
Your parents and your friends are probably going to be upset.
But they love you.
And if your boyfriend loves you, he’ll definitely stay with you and help you out.
He’ll also support you with your choices.
In my opinion, hey, if you are pregnant, you deal with it. You either get an abortion or you don’t. And if you choose not to, it’s not the end of the world. It will impact your life a lot but it’s not going to ruin it completely. You’ll still be able to go and live your life and do what you want, even if it takes a little longer or you need a little extra help.
Chill out.

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators
mumstheword offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 21 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (19 minutes after post)

Test first, panic later.

At the end of the day, whatever happens, you have the kind of man in your life who is going to support you and be by your side by the sound of things.

Together you will work things out.

Come back to us when you know what’s what and we can help you both through if need be.

Get some rest. Try to relax.

By the way, stress and worry can actually cause havoc with your cycle and delay a period.

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators
xXxJessica offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (36 minutes after post)

You have options so don’t be to worried!!
Have you talked to your man? He sounds to understand.
I think stick positive with this, being worried and negitive is not going to make it better, faster or easier.
Talk to someone like a local free fpa center (doctor) for some advice.
Or find somewhere online you can email and get some info…

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators
Help me with: Why has this happened…
Crisabell offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 8 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (1 hour, 23 minutes after post)

y dint u use a condom? please take a test

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators
mumstheword offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 21 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (1 hour, 47 minutes after post)

Condoms or not, it can still happen. What’s done is done on that, so no point worrying about a past event.

If the test is negative, then it makes sense to arrange good contraception for the future. Talk to a health advisor for advice.

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators
chev.jame offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (2 hours, 3 minutes after post)

Babies happen. And, if your boyfriend is everything you say he is, then the two of you will get married and have the child. In my very personal opinion, no “aspiration” justifies an abortion–but that’s for you to decide.

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators
mumstheword offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 21 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (2 hours, 18 minutes after post)

“I am such a good teenager …”

You know what? Yes you are. You are loving and kind to others. Don’t worry about your “reputation” with this or what people will think of you. Everyone makes mistakes.

If you continue to be a good person, you’ll make your family and friends proud no matter which course your Cinderella fairytale takes.

And remember… fairytales ALWAYS have a happy ending!

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators
Peter-Individual offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (9 hours, 12 minutes after post)

Your boyfriend sounds understaning. He will definatly stick with you. but you must find out for sure if you are pregenant beacause that will sort the majority of the anxiousness. Then if you are pregenant you COULd get an abortion but i dont beleive in that. but you could raise the child as your own your family if supportive will help with the baby but dont forget testTesttest

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators
Help me with: HELP!
keithatl63 offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (11 hours, 22 minutes after post)

First of all, u should know that God only put’s on u wut u can stand. 2nd if u r in a motherly way, being parents dont come with instructions, (OJT). U & ur freind will be great. KEEP ur head up, This is another chapter in ur book, it seems as if ur a great writer, so far ur a good read. Wright on

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators
eskid33 offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (16 hours, 37 minutes after post)

Dear Scared,

I was pregnant at the age of 15. There are lots of choices if you are pregnant. Don’t panic. I am not for abortion, just me, but there are plenty of loving couples out there who cannot have a child of their own. What a wonderful opportunity for you to share a child with them. Most will pay for your expenses and do an open adoption so that you can keep in touch with them and the child. The best of both worlds.

Best to you.

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators
This account has been deactivated.

Invite Others to Help

A logged in and verified Help.com member has the ability to setup a Friends List and invite others to help with posts.