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So, My ex, is packing up and leaving today.

We still have an ongoing lease, til may, but, we also have a roommate. Because it hurts me so bad that shes leaving, i dont think i could stay in our room/apt. and be 100% ok. My parents have a duplex, so i got offered to move in next door, and just pay utilities there til, the roomie finds a new roommate, and if need be me and my ex would pay the difference, still however paying our half on rent until she finds a roommate. Would it be in my best interest to move out?. i’m planning to, but i feel like i’m getting cold feet. i hate the fact shes moving away, but the odd thing about it is, she first told me she didnt want me to go with her, and about 2 days ago, she said if she missed me bad enough, she’ll tell me to move out there with here and try it out…. would u do it?
My head is in all sort of directions…. i’m trying not to hurt and show it, but at the same time, i’m dying inside… suicidal thoughts have popped up, but i dont think i could go thru with it… i dunno… i need help, a distraction, advice… =(…

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Ice.man offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (11 minutes after post)

she said if she missed me bad enough, she’ll tell me to move out there with here and try it out…. would u do it?>
You really gotta re-evaluate this. She is moving out for some reason, and if she is unsure if she will miss you. So aparently, she doesnt share the intensity that you do towards each other. I didnt understand the part about ‘if she misses me bad enough’ ?
She is just moving out … the world hasnt ended yet. you can still talk to her..there will be more chics.

**** happens…it called life.

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Capman offline Verified User (2 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (14 minutes after post)

It’s a bit difficult (for me) to give any advice without knowing some of the details of your break-up. But I feel a bit the saem way like Ice.man. It’s not good that “if I miss you…” and all. That doesn’t give you security for obvious reasons. You should evaluate this well without forgetting the reasons for your break-up in the 1st place.
Anyhow, even if each one of you goes in opposite directions, look ahead of you, saddness will eventually disappear. It may take some time, but if you got love to gice, someone else better will apear in your life ahead. ;)

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anothernikki offline Verified User (2 years, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (33 minutes after post)

She’s your ex!! Seriously, living with her has to be 100 times more painful than not. You’ll never get past the relationship if she’s living with you.

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Ice.man offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (38 minutes after post)

Redecorate your house.
Or
You could have like a Mega - Party weekend in your house. Call all your friends and tonnes of beer and x-box thru the day and party through the night.
After such a weekend , you either would have already hooked up with someone new. or the house will now remind you of the mega blast party you had.

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anothernikki offline Verified User (2 years, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (39 minutes after post)

Excellent advice Ice.Man!!!

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