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Get to it! Don’t screw around! What is the matter with you? You know you need to go for your own good and you putting it off?

If alcohal is not what you are addicted too, why not find a 12 step dealing with your addiction.

Set yourself a treat for when you return.

Get your favourite bubble bath out, some sweets maybe… your favourite cd.

Put them on a tray and put a post-it on the tray.

To be enjoyed when I get back.

Then get your coat and go.

Why treats? Because you deserve them! But NOT until you look after yourself.

Now shoooo.

Felicity, why on earth are you putting it off? Hm? If you have an addiction, then you should be going to it to try and solve it. You can either go to your meeting or sit around and do nothing. You know what you will get return from going to this meeting, SO GET GOING!

Oooh.. I just thought of something! That’s a great place to thrash out some ideas of the help-swop we were talking about!

Go go go.

Bottom line, do you want rid of the addiction or not ??? do you want to get to this time next year and find yourself in the same place you are now ?
Do you want the addiction to keep you awake at night worrying about it ??
Did you sign up for the AA meetings just so that you could not bother to go ?
You are worth getting this sorted, your life is worth it…now get off your butt, and get to the car. :D in the nicest possible way of course. ))) hugs. :-)

You are getting no sympathy at all from me. You know what you have to do. Now go and get it done.
By all means come back after you have done it, then I will be more sympathetic towards you.

Kim, you really ned to get this sorted NOW. No putting it off. No procrastintion, just do it (as the ad says)!

We care about you, and things are not getting better are they? You know what you need to do, so go and do it.

You know we all love you here, so any advice is for your own good. Please do it now. get the help you need. *hugs*

For me if you do the thing you’re addicted to until it makes you sick then u’ll remember it made you so sick and not do it again. try it…

If you don’t get to that meeting, you are going to have many people after you–including me! Don’t delay!

Get to it lady, chop chop cheerio. We’ll all be here when you get back. Now SCOOT! Shoo fly, make like a tree and leave…make like a bee and buzz off…skeedaddle, scram, vamoose! Get to it! No time like the present! Put a little pep in that step and get ‘er done hehehe.

l8r g8r :D

woah! Do not do whatever you are addicted to! addiction is an illness… so they say. at any rate… once an addict always an addict. the best thing we can do is learn to control our impulsiveness. meetings are for support. Find a mentor, they help. Usually they help more than the psychologists. People who actually know what you’re going through from personal experience and not just something they read in a book. you know.

get to the meeting! twelve step programs can apply to any addiction… including disorders.

If you don’t go, none of us on help will talk to you for the rest of the night….better start walking….and good luck :)

When you are finished with the meeting, come back on help and tell us all about it. We will help you through

I think you already know what to do so why are you still seeing what we are going to say?

{Felicity} wrote:
I just hate disappointment so much. whats going to be different this time than all the times I go to the stores and NOTHING happens. I get all excited just to be let down, why bother

If you keep that attitude, you’ll never get what you want. Think of the positive outcome from going to your meeting. ;)

Why the feck are you still here? (You said to be tough)

Really, go to the meeting.

Get off the fuggin ‘puter already and GO! You know you should and you are just gonna feel putrid and guilty if you don’t so pull up those socks missy and march yer ars out the door! Get to movin. Don’t make me swear like a trucker!

How was that? Tough enough? ;)

Get out of this place go to the meeting b4 i hunt u down and force u

Less talky talky and more walky walky!!!

;)

miss_enigma wrote:
Less talky talky and more walky walky!!!

;)

LOL :)

are you dreading going to AA or something?!?

ahhhh u girls…always want to talk…u need more action less talk…be seen not heard like seen walking to the church and less heard on here.

I am not pleased with this, you write up above. “I get all excited just to be let down, why bother”
One reason to bother is that you matter, another is that we care. Now scroll up to my first reply and do as I ask you to.

then say that you’re just there for the AA meeting. they’re probably not going to bug you about it, not if they ever learned basic social skills.

You can go to meetings and leave there feeling no different then when you went. However, you never know when someone will say just the right words, that you really connect with, , and they will be so motivational, that it will take your thought prosess to a positive level. That person could be there today. Do what you have to do Kim, stay positive, and hope you hear those magic words to today! You need to the support of others to maintain. You know this!!!!! Get going, the walk will do you good. Who knows, you may hold the magic words for someone else that would be life changing a good thing!!!! Meeting s are held all over. If you know some members, you could even set up your own group at your place ,or there’s. Do you have a *SPONSER* YET??????

Tell yourself “just for today, I’m not gonna drink” and stick to it. Go to the meeting to get support, and just today, don’t drink. Then get up in the morning, a little less cloudy in the head and start all over. If you feel the urge to drink tomorrow, say to yourself again,”just for today I’m not gonna drink” and then locate another AA meeting to go to in the evening. Repeat over and over again. After a period of time goes by, then think about how good you are feeling, and remind yourself again”I’m not drinking today, just not today” and know how good you feel.

{Felicity} wrote:
I just hate disappointment so much. whats going to be different this time than all the times I go to the stores and NOTHING happens. I get all excited just to be let down, why bother

“Question everything. Assume nothing”

^^ That’s the first line in your profile, you say it’s one of your “mottos”. But with the attitude you seem to have towards your addiction, this quote just makes you a hypocrite. You ASSUME that nothing is going to change just because of everything that has happened.

If you are so certain in your assumption that nothing will change, than nothing will change, which makes you very weak. You want to break the self-fulfilling prophecy of your assumption? Go to the **** meeting, and prove to me you aren’t weak.

One day at a time…

You want to help people and you won’t take the time to help yourself? There is such a thing as being a healthy healer. We all procrastinate… are you sure that is what is keeping you from these meetings? Or is it you’re afraid? Get off your A$$ and be that healthy healer. You’re very good at what you do… but that will all go way if you are wasted on something… or codependent on something or someone else. I have a CoDA meeting in an hour… you can bet your a$$ I’ll be there. You have to take every single step… just like a baby takes every single step… is a baby scared of falling down? Apparently not because they get back up… latch onto the sofa, and try again. AA is your sofa darlin’… get up and walk… so you can learn to run.
Bright blessings ~ Richard

Let me see if I have got this right. You know I am non religious but I do understand people that are.
Now if God wants you to go back to that church, for a reason, and you dont go. You will be dissobeying him.
Or God might have some one there that you should meet, the possabilities of what God would want, are way past my understanding.
You need to go, so as not to dissapoint God.

Now stop this nonsense and get going, I am sure you will have prayed about this, you need to go to one of his houses to find an answer. You have to do this.

Just one other thing on the subject. You are going to a house of Gods. To do as He wishes you to do, not mainly for other people but for your God.

You know best what you need, so do what you gotta do :)

You dont need to promise. You just have to get there when you should.

When does the meeting start?

Not sure we are on the same page dear. If you are not trying to make yourself a healthy healer than you won’t be… that almost goes without saying. You mentioned AA which is for substance abuse… if you have an issue in that arena somehow… you bring a bias to your clients… do your clients want you to be bias? Mine don’t. Do your clients want you to bring your baggage to their session? Mine don’t.

Sir Cody † wrote:
When does the meeting start?

How far away is it?

Leave now and get there early. You are going and you will need to figure out exactly where to go in the building. Nuff said. Get going.

An announcement comes over the loud speaker… “ladies and gentlemen, please take your seats and buckle your seat belts securely… we are entering into some turbulence …”. You boarded the plane with your three children to go and visit your mother, their grandmother a couple hours ago… and you’re flying over the Pacific as the announce crackles through the jet’s cabin. Suddenly, the plane lunges and jumps… and the oxygen masks fall down in front of your face… immediately you notice that the jet is doing a nose dive. Chaos ensues… flight attendants are fluttering about… one on the loud speaker saying something about exits… when you realize that your children are scared to death and the youngest is screaming in tears… they need their oxygen. You unbuckle yourself and you reach over and start trying to figure out how to use the dam* masks… you finally, what seems like ages, get one mask on… the second one is easier, but it got tangled with the third and so it was long too… you reach for the the third mask when you pass out due to lack of oxygen; you never put your mask on. - your last child…you oldest will die unless someone else can help them.

Kim… before we can help others… we have to make sure we are strong enough to do just that.

{Felicity} wrote:
Ill get out the door, need a walk anyway, ill try and get back to you all.later, thanks

:)

Did you not go?

Richard cor de lyon wrote:
An announcement comes over the loud speaker… “ladies and gentlemen, please take your seats and buckle your seat belts securely… we are entering into some turbulence …”. You boarded the plane with your three children to go and visit your mother, their grandmother a couple hours ago… and you’re flying over the Pacific as the announce crackles through the jet’s cabin. Suddenly, the plane lunges and jumps… and the oxygen masks fall down in front of your face… immediately you notice that the jet is doing a nose dive. Chaos ensues… flight attendants are fluttering about… one on the loud speaker saying something about exits… when you realize that your children are scared to death and the youngest is screaming in tears… they need their oxygen. You unbuckle yourself and you reach over and start trying to figure out how to use the dam* masks… you finally, what seems like ages, get one mask on… the second one is easier, but it got tangled with the third and so it was long too… you reach for the the third mask when you pass out due to lack of oxygen; you never put your mask on. - your last child…you oldest will die unless someone else can help them.

Kim… before we can help others… we have to make sure we are strong enough to do just that.

I agree with this 100% I have to say thank you I know this is not my post but it’s just what i needed to hear.

The plane is still going down Kim.

goddammit why the hell wont you go?!???? its like youre stranded on an island and a giant cruise liner finds you and tries to pick you up but instead you say “Nope, i think i’d rather starve here all alone until i die.” sound stupid? it is.

Kim have you ever been to a 12 step meeting?

just curious… you said something about having people do things for you… or helping you, and how you are not used to it. In a 12 step you do all the work for yourself. The thing is there are those there that have been through it… many with the same issues as you, and they are prepared to help you… but not by taking your hand and doing for you… only you can do for yourself… they are just supports (hmmm hope that made some sence) :)

Sorry i came in very late on this but Felicity i think you did ok if you actually got ready and left, it is a big scary thing and as long as you get a little further every week then you are doing ok, at least you are not ignoring the problem. We will all be ready and waiting to jump on you next friday though! Be pleased with yourself. Vyki x

Well, I feel completely let down, that you didn’t go to your meeting. The odd thing is I am feeling let down that you let yourself down. I am feeling upset, not for myself, ( you never answered any of my replies, so they obviously were not helping). I feel upset that you let down all of the people who’s replies you did find helpfull.
I think you might have said something like this yourself, somewhere, in one of your posts.
You cant love others, untill you learn to love yourself.
I will add to that, you cant love others, untill you accept love from others.

You can not help others unconditionally, untill you learn to help yourself unconditionally.
I will add to that, you cannot help others unconditionally, untill you can accept unconditional help from others.

I have my own saying, this, dont forget that you matter as well. Meaning that everyone matters a great deal. You matter a great deal.
So I ask you. Are you going to do something about this?

I have been searching for a long time, to find some poems by some one called Patience Strong.
It would seem that they are copyrighted, and have to be bought in book form, or you may be able to get them at your local library.

She is world famous,her poems are classed as beautiful, humanitarian and some religious poems as well.

This is the only one I can find at the moment :-

Along the High Street people flock, a seething human stream,
And just a few steps from it all, I sit alone and dream.
Tall, shaggy-headed Dahlias look down into my face,
As I drink in the beauty of this quiet and lovely place.

Beyond the iron railings traffic roars and rolls along,
While overhead the bird-choirs fill the air with happy song.
The sodden, tattered autumn leaves come falling one by one,
The bronze and red chrysanthemums are glowing in the sun.

A white swan moves upon the lake where willows dip their gold,
Between the Yews the parish church looks dim and grey and old.
I don’t know who has given us this beautiful retreat,
Where birds make song and flowers bloom just off the crowded street,
But thank you, thank you, thank you to whoever it may be
Who gave the town this quiet place - this garden sanctuary.

There are thousands of much better ones than this. Very calming and soothing. Dont know if you want to give your library a try or not, yeh, go on, give it a try.