Love help: Lifestyle problem: I like to be in control of my environment. - Help.com

It is called obsessive compulsive behaviour there is a pill for that.

Ohhhh so you are also delusional, lol just playing :)

Just means your selfish to me. Do you hear yourself? You sound very much like your saying “My way or the highway baby”. Good luck in the romance department with that perspective. We have to give if we are to get anything in this life. I’m not saying you have to surrender 100% of “you”… God forbid! But unless you want to die alone (like the old gunman from the ol’ days) you best learn how to accept people into your life.

well… make sure that you keep an office in your home. A place that is “YOURS”. The rest of the house can be shared, and actually one room should be “THEIRS”. They don’t touch or comment on your office, and you don’t touch or comment on their room. That the logistics of it. But the emotional part of it is harder to deal with. Now please, I’m not saying your selfish in every aspect of your life; I’m sure you are not. You do have the right to be yourself and you never want to bend over backwards to become someone your not to please another, but playing music at 3AM when others are trying to sleep… that’s just plain mean! Selfish people can resolve many feelings simply by getting used to giving. That means being aware of those around you, and realizing that, like you, they have wants and needs too. If you try to give to their wants and needs - you’ll find yourself moving forward with this very very quickly.

i disagree with Richard in that i dont think its selfish. I think it has to do with the rituals. I have this too, much more managed than it used to be. If things were out of place , this being not just material things, i get all frazzled. For me I think it had to do with ADD, i just recently found out. YOu say you are creative, this will help you manage it. Also understanding the concept of ‘dont sweat the small stuff’ been books written on it if your not fimiliar.The fact that you enjoy analyzing and the perfectionism involved im sure has something to do with it . What to do about it. Dont gloat on the perfectionism, this will get you no-where and its self-defeating. use your creativity to change things on purpose then you will see how silly these rituals really are. Im glad you found a career to match your personality but it makes me wonder if this has something to do with how you run your life. Ive been searching for something I can use my analyzing skills in and system design consultant sounds very applicable for me. What would I need to get into this? schooling etc, if you dont mind.

Also, this may help http://help.com/post/210815-perfectio…

A relationship is a two way street. Her wants/needs/likes should be considered as much as your own. Relationships are about some compromises. It is good that you realize this about yourself. Maybe you are not cut out to live with someone else.