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My neighbor and i have been best friends since the second grade. We used to hangout everyday after school. As we got older around 4th grade i started to have a crush on him. By the sixth grade i knew he felt the same way too. He was always hugging me and flirting with me. He told me he liked me before he went away for the summer and told me when he got back we’d be together. After summer when he came back i found out from a friend he had a girlfriend. i was crushed. But he continued to flirt with me constantly, and i was falling really hard for him. THere were times when he told me i was always going to be hhis number one. As we continued to get older i liked him more and more. He was my first kiss. Once we got to highschool we hung out less but styaed close.We’ve both gone through realationships and helped eachother with breakups. We’ve hookedup alot too but ive never been his girlfriend. Now we are both single and i really like him. i just dont know what to do to show him im more than a friend and im sick of alwways just being there for him for a hookup when its convient. i know he has something for me i can tell i just dont understand why everytime we hookup thats as far as it goes. any advice?

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littlenick 152 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (17 minutes after post)

Sounds like the guy friend a lot of girls wish they had. He has been your “girl-friend” that a lot of girls wish they had in their own “girl-friends.” Sounds like you guys are meant to be together but not in the sentimental way. You support each other and help each other. Now, if you want to be his “girlfriend” (notice no hyphen), you have to look for ways in which you guys can be together romantically. But, do you want to ruin the friendship that you have now. You have to be 100% sure that he is the guy you want to be with because you may ruin that friendship if you guys were to break up. If you guys break up, you may not even be able to be friends even though you might say that you would still be there for him to help him with his issues and vice-versa–he being there for you. Those are dangerous waters your treading and you have to really be careful. It’s a tricky situation for him and for you also. I would just continue being friends and talk to him–a lot–about how he might feel if you guys were boyfriend-girlfriend. It is a situation where you have to keep your eyes wide open and not ruin what you already have with this guy. I am sure there are plenty of moments that you cherish in your memory from growing up with this guy. They would become memories that would torment you in the future if you guys were to be an item and would break up. Are you ready for the heartache and sentimental pain that might come with your break up. Analyze the situation. Don’t put yourself at a disadvantage just to satisfy your curiosity for knowing whether things might or might not work out for you two. Also realize that he might feel the same way about you. But, just because he is single and you are single that does not mean that they may not be people willing and ready to go out with both of you. I would just say play it by ear and see what develops. Don’t set yourself for a huge disappointment when things don’t work out between you two. Good luck. I hope you end up in a good situation with this guy. Even if it’s not romantically. God bless you!

Sounds like the guy friend a lot of girls wish they had.  He has been your "girl-friend" that a lot of girls wish they had in their own "girl-friends."  Sounds like you guys are meant to be together but not in the sentimental way.  You support each other and help each other.  Now, if you want to be his "girlfriend" (notice no hyphen), you have to look for ways in which you guys can be together romantically.  But, do you want to ruin the friendship that you have now.  You have to be 100% sure that he is the guy you want to be with because you may ruin that friendship if you guys were to break up.  If you guys break up, you may not even be able to be friends even though you might say that you would still be there for him to help him with his issues and vice-versa--he being there for you.  Those are dangerous waters your treading and you have to really be careful.  It's a tricky situation for him and for you also.  I would just continue being friends and talk to him--a lot--about how he might feel if you guys were boyfriend-girlfriend.  It is a situation where you have to keep your eyes wide open and not ruin what you already have with this guy.  I am sure there are plenty of moments that you cherish in your memory from growing up with this guy.  They would become memories that would torment you in the future if you guys were to be an item and would break up.  Are you ready for the heartache and sentimental pain that might come with your break up.  Analyze the situation.  Don't put yourself at a disadvantage just to satisfy your curiosity for knowing whether things might or might not work out for you two.  Also realize that he might feel the same way about you.  But, just because he is single and you are single that does not mean that they may not be people willing and ready to go out with both of you.  I would just say play it by ear and see what develops.  Don't set yourself for a huge disappointment when things don't work out between you two.  Good luck.  I hope you end up in a good situation with this guy.  Even if it's not romantically.  God bless you!

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kitkatrox9 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (38 minutes after post)

hahah thank you very much for the advice i see what you mean about if we broke up things would eb different but honestly ive thouhgt about it for a while and i think it would be worth it. i just feel like he takes me for granted sometimes and only sees me as a person to **** around with

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Barbyman 2 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (2 hours, 29 minutes after post)

he is only seeing you as his little Sister .he loves you but in a different way he will help you any way he can but forget a different kind of a relationship with him.Don’T forget only as your little sister and what is wrong with that?

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kitkatrox9 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (2 hours, 38 minutes after post)

if he thought of me as a little sister tho why would he continuously say suggestive things to me and hookup with me?

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Barbyman 2 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (2 hours, 43 minutes after post)

he is just playing around.OK just ask him what his intentions are .stright out and see what he says.Then you know what and what not to do…

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littlenick 152 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (2 hours, 45 minutes after post)

If you feel that you can take a chance with this guy, just be ready for the consequences if it does not work out. Some friends are great friends because that is all they are meant to be to us. But, once we cross the romantic line and it ends up not working out, they can be the biggest a**holes in the world to us. Be careful!

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littlenick 152 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (2 hours, 46 minutes after post)

The reason why I told you all those things and gave all that advice is because I have gone through that! I had a great best female friend for about ten years and when we both decided to become romantically involved and it did not work out, not only did I lose her as a girlfriend but I also lost my best friend! I miss my best friend! :(.

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kitkatrox9 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (2 hours, 48 minutes after post)

awwwwww yeah like i dont know if we wouldnt be friends or not tho but like we’ve gone back and forth on liking eachother so much i feel like we’ve been thorugh alot and that we’d remain friends cuz even tho we never went out alot of times it felt like we were going out when we’d be hooking up adn then when we would stop it felt like a breakup so idk thanks for all your help though so much

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An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (8 hours, 1 minute after post)

Im in the same situation execpt im the “guy-friend” The odd’s are that he likes you. Try it with him, see what happens, If it doesn’t work out, im sure your relationship is strong enough you will be back to being friends after a few months…

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