Love help: My girlfriend doesn’t want me to fall in love with her. - Help.com

Well, don’t tell her you love her! She will try to use that against you!

By the way love stinks!

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What’s the mistake you made?

I’m gonna make a guess, and since I know so little, I’ll have to assume a lot. SO I’m sorry if this is useless, and unhelpful.

So, now I’m going to pretend I know what I’m talking about.
It’s possible, whatever it is you did before hurt her too much to want to fall in love with you again. That, even though she agreed to go out with you again, she doesn’t want it get serius, for fear of heartbreak.

Love is amazing, and while it lasts is just fantastic, but can you (or anyone)promiss that it’s not going to evantualy end with some amount of heartbreak? It’s a slightly depressing way to look at things, but how else could it be?

But maybe you can be more specific. Maybe you can explain to her why whatever happened last time, won’t happen again. It won’t be the same because__.

She very well might love you, but not want too. That’s a hard place for her to be, and it must be hard for you on the receiving side as well. She needs to everything your feeling. Honesty is the key.

For your sake, I very much hope she understands you realize that she is what you want, and that what you two have could be great.
Goodluck!

I can tell you several reasons about it, even if my post is late, you will see it and i believe it will help you. ;]
-She was hurt before by love or dated with a liar. She doesn’t want to be hurt again.
-She doesn’t know you completely, give her some time. The more you get to know each other you can ask to her if her mindset about love has changed.
-”Falling in love” is mybe it’s not her expression, for ex. I’m in exactly same situation now. Whenevr i compliment or sya something romantic/beautiful to her, she sees it as buttering up.(Btw I’m a poet too…)
-Instead give the relationship a time. Being boyfriend/girlfriend puts responsibility on both sides.
-If you really think you ‘love’ her much just by a couple of dates, change your mind my friend. Maybe her definiton of love is different than yours. Or maybe according to her, you love the impression she leaves on you instead.
-Instead of saying “I’m in love with you.” or “I love you.” try to say like, “I like you a lot, you know that right?” or when you comment to her say how much you like something that belongs to her or is about her and make sure it’s something specific. i.e. “I really like when you…” or “
-It can also be that some guys get too romantic while dating out with girls and after some time it looks really girly to them and they say it loses it’s magic. This is what i heard from a female friend, an honest advice for real.
-Be sincere and stay positive, when you have to wait for something ot happen, wait until it becomes clear and be careful don’t let your mind get you and create prejudiced plans about your relationship.
-Ask about her friends, her family, her pets(if she has any), her life, her career, ask who cheers her up and tell her you’re a good listener.

-Never lie to her and show that you won’t.
-Show that you care for her, remember to text , call or at least ring her. When you really want to impress her out of the blue, when she’s waiting for you wait 3 days or after something bad happens wait three days and make the move, the number is magical, you’ll see.
-When you feel like it’s the right moment, stare into her eyes and see if she can take your looks for 5-6 seconds, even if she says something, do not say anything keep looking but eventually answer her question. Question because, she will ask you what is it or if she blushes, looks away quickly,or goes like “Whaaad?” in a shy why it’s sign of her liking you a lot.
-Say that you love her eyes when you really do.
-Lean her space and personal life, when you two need to meet up make sure both of your scedules are empty, and when she tells that she has stuff to do, insist once if you really want to meet her just for a couple of hours is possible if you still get negative respond, don’t anymore. You don’t want to be her toy whenever she calls or wants to meet up so do the same for your own schedule but if you feel like you want to go out with her, make some and cancel them but do not tell her because it would be like bragging. It’s better if she finds it out on her own and respect her own life.
-Do not lie ‘ever’ about a joke, story or anything that you tell her about, even she won’t find out or if it’s something tiny, it will cause it to lose it’s magic/spirit “for you” which is the worst.
-Remember everyone is different, don’t make a move and assume that she’s wrong or not, judge your actions instead as if you were her.
-Pay attention while she talks or what she likes, if she says cheese, don’t bring her flowers but get the cheese she likes, details matter them the most.
-Ask what she like, color, artist, writer, celebrity, movie, habits, likes, dislikes, interests.
-Tell her that you will be available for help anytime she needs.
-Let her feel lucky instead, be sure you are the prize for her, not you. And do noy overdo gifts and other things, it makes it look like paying for rent. Keep them seldom.
-Talk on high levels of life, if your thoughts crosses be openminded and ask the reason she supports whatever it is.
-What Nirosac is true, honesty is the key and patience is the door it will open as the last. Main aim is to not hide any emotion, thoughts or feelings from her but to when you’re with her, it has to be stop them and let moment flow and embrace the moment and enjoy the time you spend with her.

I tried to be objective as much as i can and since i don’t know the situation exactly, I tried to write down one for every kind of possibility. I’m sorry if any of my words offended you. But if she still doesn’t trust you enough to tell why or still not afraid to be in love with you anymore, you can ask directly in an honest way that where you stand at the moment. And one last word. Do not fall in love instead become love and be the source for love. When you both fall in love you create and imaginary mindset which everybody is still looking for in this world. When you be the source, you’ll understand what i mean, “lover love” definiton is corrupted in this world, when you’re with her try to share the essence of liking each other and do not pay attention to what she does but the meaning of love. Rest will surface what you needed and always asked for. Love is the light.
Have a peaceful day.