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I’m still in love with my best girl friend.(I’m a guy.)

We went out (if you could really call it that) for a little while this summer, but she ended up liking another guy. I wrote a sort of love story, which helps, but i still feel awful when i realize she’s with other guys. We’re back to being best friends, but she messes with my emotions all the time. I want to stay friends, but i need something to take away some of the pain. I need suggestions.

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classicbeaut offline Verified User (1 year, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
US | 1 year, 1 month ago (20 minutes after post)

You like to write? Write it out. I know how you feel… read my post(s). You’re pretty much my bestfriend. Excuse me, ex-bff.

I feel so bad for you. Find something you love and go for it. Are you in high school? Maybe focus on grades and a great college. Succeed in something. Make sure you’re there for her though. That might make a difference later.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (26 minutes after post)

Thanks so much! sorry about the different email, i can’t register right this second. I think i helped on one of yours bfore, thanks for returning the favor. more suggestions would be great!

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classicbeaut offline Verified User (1 year, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
US | 1 year, 1 month ago (35 minutes after post)

No problem at all.

-Find a girl you love.
-Keep writing, ahh that could be so great!
-Get closer to your family. Cousins are a great support system. Same with any family. Granparents, aunts, uncles.
-There’s a quote or soomething about how you should become the person you want most. This kinda confuses me but say you want someone happy and positive, you become that. This is like changing yourself but whatever. Haha, I like the quote.
-Do something selfless. Become a Big Brother >> http://www.bbbs.org/site/c.diJKKYPLJv…
-Volunteer, join youth ministry, church? Are you religious? I’m Catholic and that’s helped me more than I ever imagined it would.
-Rescue an animal! Yay pets!
-Design something. Anything. A business, a shoe, a country, a vacuum. Anything. It could be the nesx thing.

Ok, I’ll stop myself now.
Hope everything works out :]

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classicbeaut offline Verified User (1 year, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
US | 1 year, 1 month ago (36 minutes after post)

*next

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~~JST_ME~~ offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (36 minutes after post)

Y dont you try taking a little time away from her because you say shes playing with your minfd and thats not right i thynk that she would do that so mayb you shouldnt be around her for awhile

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (40 minutes after post)

~~JST_ME~~ wrote:
Y dont you try taking a little time away from her because you say shes playing with your minfd and thats not right i thynk that she would do that so mayb you shouldnt be around her for awhile

thanks! that was one of the things i was thinking
once again- sry for the dif email

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~~JST_ME~~ offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (42 minutes after post)

ineedhelp wrote:

~~JST_ME~~ wrote:
Y dont you try taking a little time away from her because you say shes playing with your minfd and thats not right i thynk that she would do that so mayb you shouldnt be around her for awhile

thanks! that was one of the things i was thinking
once again- sry for the dif email

its ok and yea does she know you still lik her

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (42 minutes after post)

classicbeaut wrote:
No problem at all. -Find a girl you love.-Keep writing, ahh that could be so great!-Get closer to your family. Cousins are a great support system. Same with any family. Granparents, aunts, uncles. -There’s a quote or soomething about how you should become the person you want most. This kinda confuses me but say you want someone happy and positive, you become that. This is like changing yourself but whatever. Haha, I like the quote.-Do something selfless. Become a Big Brother >> http://www.bbbs.org/site/c.diJKKYPLJv…, join youth ministry, church? Are you religious? I’m Catholic and that’s helped me more than I ever imagined it would.-Rescue an animal! Yay pets!-Design something. Anything. A business, a shoe, a country, a vacuum. Anything. It could be the nesx thing.Ok, I’ll stop myself now.Hope everything works out :]

Thank you classicbeaut. You are definitely a HUGE help. and yea, im catholic too. i don’t think there’s anything else you couldve suggested. It’s nice to find someone that is cool with stuff like that, most ppl wanna stay away from this kinda stuff!

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (43 minutes after post)

~~JST_ME~~ wrote:

ineedhelp wrote:
~~JST_ME~~ wrote:
Y dont you try taking a little time away from her because you say shes playing with your minfd and thats not right i thynk that she would do that so mayb you shouldnt be around her for awhile
thanks! that was one of the things i was thinkingonce again- sry for the dif email
its ok and yea does she know you still lik her

yea, she does.

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~~JST_ME~~ offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (46 minutes after post)

ineedhelp wrote:

~~JST_ME~~ wrote:
ineedhelp wrote:
~~JST_ME~~ wrote:
Y dont you try taking a little time away from her because you say shes playing with your minfd and thats not right i thynk that she would do that so mayb you shouldnt be around her for awhile
thanks! that was one of the things i was thinkingonce again- sry for the dif email
its ok and yea does she know you still lik her

yea, she does.

then i reccomned telling her y u wanna sta away from her 4 awhile so she doesnt think that your mad or anything and also talk to her bout messn wit ur mind tell her thats not kool

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classicbeaut offline Verified User (1 year, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
US | 1 year, 1 month ago (46 minutes after post)

Lol, Jesus is the man. I’ve never been afraid to talk about religion.

I’m liking the suggestion to stay away. Be there, sure, if she needs you. But put some distance so she can’t get to you (like in your mind) as much. If she wants to keep up the friendship, she will. Always be open if she needs help.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (47 minutes after post)

thanks. you guys rly are awesome!

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~~JST_ME~~ offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (50 minutes after post)

ineedhelp wrote:
thanks. you guys rly are awesome!

lol ur welcum

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classicbeaut offline Verified User (1 year, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
US | 1 year, 1 month ago (53 minutes after post)

Absolutely no problem. This situation is scary close to mine. Whatever I can do to help, just ask.

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