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kyle-sylvester

Just moved to Canada and…

Well I recently moved to Canada, well 4 months ago but I still only have two friends. One lives far and the other never has time for me… anyway, I am trying to make friends but its hard for me to meet people in person, I am not very good at meeting people first contact. I have been trying the Craigslist post and a site called plentyoffish . com, yes I know its a dating site but they have option for friends or just hang out ETC, I have also tried tdotwire . com but the fact that they have “only the green” as a smoking option deters me from wanting to meet people there. I am in desperate need of human interaction I am having social withdrawal! I am evening having full conversations with myself and responding sometimes debating too… And I don’t want to go crazy. Please help. Even if its a website for people in Toronto it would be great. Please don’t tell me about pubs cause I am non alcoholic and get sick at the smell of alcohol… I am working on overcoming this to an extent still don’t want to drink. also I don’t smoke and I am no good and greeting people for the first time unless I know they are going to talk to me.

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miss_enigma 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (10 minutes after post)

Hiya Neighbour and welcome to Canada lol.

Plenty of Fish is ok but just be careful, there’s some real “interesting” people out there on the www!

To meet new people I would suggest just getting out and trying to overcome that shyness of social interaction. If you are in Toronto you can meet a ton of people just by walking around, going for coffee and chatting, being friendly with people.

Boost up your confidence, realize what you have to offer others as a great friend and maybe that will help. Rejection is part of life, not everyone is going to want to be your pal and if they do reject you, you don’t want to be theirs!

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tricky 102 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (13 minutes after post)

i think you just called me crazy O_o

anywayz just be more friendly go by when you see somebody that has the potential to be a friend like same age as you and stuff

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kyle-sylvester 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (15 minutes after post)

Thanks for the welcome. Yeah I am well aware of the people on the web, some are really interesting. I would love to be able to be more sociable but I have had a very troubled past leaving me very defensive to people I grew up with an alcoholic negative abusive mother so I tend to be very help back when meeting people. once I meet them I start talking and I don’t stop and I do believe I am a good person and would make a good friends I am always willing to lend a hand when I can and offer what advice I have but its just hard for someone like me to do meet people in person and rejection hits me hard to cause its all I ever get…

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (20 minutes after post)

hi, and welcome to Canada.
I assume you’re in the Toronto area. Sometimes it’s difficult living in a city and not knowing anyone.
What about the library, or shopping malls? I think when you’re walking in public, if you look people in the eye briefly and smile and nod your head or even say hello…it works.

if you could give us an idea where you live, we might be able to help out more.

kyle-sylvester 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (21 minutes after post)

yes I am in the Toronto area , around high park

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (23 minutes after post)

do you have a car, or do you use the TTC?

have a look at this site. there might be something for you:
http://www.showmetoronto.com/toronto_…

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (24 minutes after post)

I would stick to group activities at first, and then once you’re in…you can work on one to one activities.

kyle-sylvester 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (29 minutes after post)

not such a good group person I stick to myself in groups and I take the TTC its too expensive to own a car down town

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (34 minutes after post)

well, that link I gave you has activities for singles to large groups.

sometimes you have to be a bit more flexible if you want to meet people.
friendship is all about give and take.

kyle-sylvester 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (37 minutes after post)

yea I am browsing around on it now and joining one of the sites thank you very much, greatly appreciated.

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (37 minutes after post)

you’re very welcome.
good luck!

miss_enigma 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (1 hour, 37 minutes after post)

tricky wrote:
i think you just called me crazy O_o

anywayz just be more friendly go by when you see somebody that has the potential to be a friend like same age as you and stuff

Who called you crazy?!

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tricky 102 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (15 hours, 37 minutes after post)

kic8 ” I am even having full conversations with myself and responding sometimes debating too… And I don’t want to go crazy”

^_^

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miss_enigma 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (16 hours, 24 minutes after post)

Ohh gotcha, lol ;)

Well I’m crazy too then. :D

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greenie 6 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (2 weeks after post)

Yeah it’s kind of hard to meet people wherever you are. Best way I’ve found is to do some sort of group thing, or go travelling.

Finding out about other people sometimes means finding out about what you wanna do too. If you enjoy what you do, you relax, and people respond better in that way.

So if you’re sporty, pick up a sport you like, or a language, or a hobby…a local club or something.. or try something new. Try not to narrow things down before you try them unless its something you dont like.

I like capoeira, but it’s mainly for the people that go really, not just the dance, and you wont know if they’re the right people unless you try

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