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On Halloween, I wss planning on going out with friends, but none of them have costume ideas.

I’m getting really tired of being the only one making an effort. Either its me planning everything, and them not ready until the last minute. Me planning something and them not telling me they can do it until the last minute and I’ll make new plans, or them making plans and not telling me about them until the last minute so I have things going on. And I’m sick of it. What should I do? I’ve been asking them repeatedly if they have an idea, but they always so they don’t know. Should I make other plans AND warn them, or just wait?

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chev.jame offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (17 minutes after post)

Like herding cats, huh?

Next time, don’t plan anything that requires your friends’ cooperation. They aren’t up to making commitments yet. They will be the kind of people who won’t RSVP invitations.

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mikem7 offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 9 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (5 hours, 8 minutes after post)

Ha I can understand your frustration. Something i’ve learned recently is that sometimes, you really have to make a HUGE effort just to let go. People are often not going to meet your expectations. And that can suck. But letting go can be freeing, and you find out it didn’t matter as much. It can be hard dealing with apathetic people, too. For the specific halloween issue, it doesn’t sound like they’ll come through. Did you consider just doing something simple together? Or no costumes at all? I know that’s lame but…I just hope things work out!

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Time Traveller offline Verified User (1 year, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 8 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (15 hours, 56 minutes after post)

Bring some stage makeup and if they show they can just paint their face.

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