friends help: WHY do i do it?

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WHY do i do it?

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I find myself attracted to men more if they are taken. On top of that, i usually half-heartedly pursue and then quickly realize they are interested as well. This has created a many of problems for me obviously. And i resist now. i mean i really resist. My friends boyfriend give me looks and make passes when we are drunk and i immediately go to my room or to the side of the house for a private cigarette. But the excitement gets me going. How do i fix this? I really don’t want to steal anyone’s boyfriend.

Why do i want such forbidden things?

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Anonymous #
1 year, 1 month ago (3 minutes after post)

It’s in our nature.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (3 minutes after post)

You simply want what you cant have.
Thats what I got from your story anyway…

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Anonymous #
1 year, 1 month ago (6 minutes after post)

But how to get over that?

kyle-sylvester 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (7 minutes after post)

shes not asking for your opinions shes asking for help… this isn’t opinion.com. First off the reason why people who are taken are attractive is because you get to see them for who they are and what they are like. It’s hard to get over you have to really want to do it and any time you catch your self doing it tell yourself stop sounds ridiculous but it works. also try getting someone of your own and focus your attention on them.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (11 minutes after post)

kics8 wrote:
shes not asking for your opinions shes asking for help… this isn’t opinion.com. First off the reason why people who are taken are attractive is because you get to see them for who they are and what they are like. It’s hard to get over you have to really want to do it and any time you catch your self doing it tell yourself stop sounds ridiculous but it works. also try getting someone of your own and focus your attention on them.

I know its not opinion.com, thank you, I was going to say that she should focus on men that arent already in a realationship. And good advise, telling yourself to stop really does help.

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Anonymous #
1 year, 1 month ago (13 minutes after post)

kics8 wrote:
shes not asking for your opinions shes asking for help… this isn’t opinion.com.

He/she asked three questions, not one. To fix a problem (the right way) you must first understand the problem.
My reply previous reply has no false information.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (14 minutes after post)

Anonymous wrote:

kics8 wrote:
shes not asking for your opinions shes asking for help… this isn’t opinion.com.

He/she asked three questions, not one. To fix a problem (the right way) you must first understand the problem.
My reply previous reply has no false information.

Thats true too.

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miss_enigma 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (22 minutes after post)

Is it possible that you are afraid of a serious relationship and these fellas are safe because you wouldn’t have to completely commit to them?

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Gypsy Pirate 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (2 hours, 46 minutes after post)

*Chatty_Cassie* wrote:
You simply want what you cant have.
Thats what I got from your story anyway…

It’s not really what you can’t have though because they return the attraction…
The friends boyfriends is a tough one. I’ve been going through that with my best friend and roommates “man.” I Don’t know what to tell you as I don’t know what to do myself.

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tomstar 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (3 hours, 2 minutes after post)

well your flirtations as you know!! i think your scared, but more on the side of giving yourself a bad name and your repertation wont look good to all of these who are mates with you..so controll yourself when your on the wine..

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pluto_goddes 1 #
Austin, TX, US | 1 year, 1 month ago (3 hours, 9 minutes after post)

HAHA that is the worst and best thing i’ve ever heard. That is such a ****** situation, but you need to STOP! Its not that hard to NOT do something like that.

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