friends help: I have a friend, well I don’t think of her as a friend anymore, who is very controlling and very negative.

wagn022

I have a friend, well I don’t think of her as a friend anymore, who is very controlling and very negative.

I want to end our relationship all together. I am in college while she is in high school so we don’t see each other anymore. So I decided to ignore her, but she keeps texting me and say that I am being a “meanie.” (She said something different but it is the same meaning.) Truthfully, I don’t like conflict and we have been friends for quite sometime. We have been through a lot together but she really changed the last few years. I have voiced my concerns about the way she treats me and she says I am taking everything way out of perspective. What should I do?

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burgerkrieg 2 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (2 minutes after post)

Tell her that you have already voiced your concerns about the way she treats you, and if she can only regard your opinions as irrelevant (or out of “perspective”) then you two are done with. If she wants to remain friends, then she needs to take your feelings into consideration.

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Barbyman 5 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (8 minutes after post)

face her and tell her exactly what you feel like telling her.Dont go around the Bush.Look her in the Eyes and say it…

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (14 minutes after post)

say it to her face whether she like it or not.

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¡ʎuɐɟɟıʇ 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (29 minutes after post)

I was just actually in a similar situation, except my friend was bringing me down mentally and physically. She was CONSTANTLY negative ..even over the smallest things. (Not liking a song, movie, shopping place, etc.) She got pissed off when I had other plans or if I didn’t invite her somewhere. The worst part though was that she’d talk badly about my family and fiance then get upset at me when I got offended by it! She’d also basically belittle me — sort of implying that I was ugly and stupid and whatnot.
What I did first was just told her flat out what the deal was. I wasn’t mean or anything, but she knew I was serious. She took it as some sort of joke and tired to play it off as “just kidding” .. After that I’ve just avoided all contact with her. No texting, e-mailing, calling, etc. We haven’t talked in over 2 months and honestly, I’m so glad.
Just let her know that you’re serious. That you don’t have time to deal with immature people ..people who are constantly negative.

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wagn022 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (37 minutes after post)

♥ tiffany! wrote:
I was just actually in a similar situation, except my friend was bringing me down mentally and physically. She was CONSTANTLY negative ..even over the smallest things. (Not liking a song, movie, shopping place, etc.) She got pissed off when I had other plans or if I didn’t invite her somewhere. The worst part though was that she’d talk badly about my family and fiance then get upset at me when I got offended by it! She’d also basically belittle me — sort of implying that I was ugly and stupid and whatnot.
What I did first was just told her flat out what the deal was. I wasn’t mean or anything, but she knew I was serious. She took it as some sort of joke and tired to play it off as “just kidding” .. After that I’ve just avoided all contact with her. No texting, e-mailing, calling, etc. We haven’t talked in over 2 months and honestly, I’m so glad.
Just let her know that you’re serious. That you don’t have time to deal with immature people ..people who are constantly negative.

I am glad that some else has had a situation like this before. I told her that I have no interest in contiuning our friendship and I don’t know if I wasn’t clear enough but she still thinks it is a good idea to text me and call me. And now she is getting mad about me not replying.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (57 minutes after post)

idk she might just be angry because she misses you, though it’s still not an excuse. do guys talk on the phone instead of text..it may relieve the tension between you

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wagn022 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (59 minutes after post)

1_Hyu-Hinata_1 wrote:
idk she might just be angry because she misses you, though it’s still not an excuse. do guys talk on the phone instead of text..it may relieve the tension between you

The trouble is I don’t want to be friends with her anymore at all. She is not the same persona I was friends with and I don’t need someone who makes me feel so crappy in my life.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (1 hour, 5 minutes after post)

well ok, i suppose it is best to loosen the ties then

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