Day help: Two days ago I relapsed into my self-harming ways. - Help.com

what happened to make you do it again

Technically I’ve been doing it for awhile now, by deliberately letting my kitten scratch me or deliberately not being careful and letting myself get hurt.
But the serious cutting… I don’t know what specifically happened. Things have been building up for awhile.

would you like to talk about it

Have you sought any professional help? Try http://www.righthealth.com/Health/see…

angela 2008 wrote:
would you like to talk about it

I don’t really know what there is to say. I’m stressed about everything, I can’t concentrate on anything (which is bad, because uni exams are fast approaching), and it feels like I can’t make the right decision about anything. And cutting seems to get rid of some of that stress and calm me down a little. Until I have to start worrying that my boyfriend will notice. Which he inevitably will, and then things will get worse.

BSBMoony wrote:
Have you sought any professional help? Try http://www.righthealth.com/Health/see…

I’ve considered it, but I don’t really know where to start. And I know how the confidentiality system works - I’ll be considered a danger to myself, which involves them reporting things to someone, which then involves my family finding out, and I don’t want them to know anything.

ive never done it myself
however,my friend used to cut for 9 yrs!!!
i dont want to alarm you
shes in a wheelchair now
her muscles in her arms &lgs are totally useless!!!
shes cut soooooooo much,she aint got a life now
she isnt even 30&she needs help 24/7

i understand the stress etc but surely there are other ways than cutting!!!
you say your bf dont kno,well he will do soon
next time you feel the urge to cut
hold some ice :)

hey anonymous i know what ur going thro u just need to get ur head up and then keep urself busy
i used to cut for about 1 yr n a 1/2 so trust me i know how hard it is but its for the better i swear it to u.
me i got into rock climbing its great to relieve stress so i suggest that or some other activity where u have to use enegry

you dont suck, you are human, thats all. Today is a new day, as long as you keep looking at the setbacks as failure you will stay stuck. forgive yourself and take each day as it comes and reward yousrself when you dont cut

Hey i know what your going through, i was a cutter for 4 years, now my left arm is almost completely useless! And it drove everything away from me. you know talk to a counselor, get some professional help

I cut at the minute, and all I can say is that talking to someone can help. Have you ever talked to someone about how you feel or about the cutting?

Getting through life is tough. I am pretty sure that interactng with good people is the only hope we have of getting through. This isnt a pessimistic idea, it is real and hopeful. Youve simply got to find genuine good people and find yourself a way to contribute to … anything. I dont cut. I dont do anything that can be seen by the PTA ladies. lol. I am just different. I promise, it works out.

I understand I used to cut- than I tried to OD on pills. I hurt so bad that all I could think about was me and my pain. I was hospitalized and put in a psych ward. Not a nice place to be. I am still seeing therapist it helps.
Look at all the people that care about you. Get healthy don’t try and handle it yourself. Talk to a counselor or maybe a member of your clergy. You will be suprised at all the support you have. I know I was ;)

Gaurdian_Angel,

I have a post on the subject if your interested in sharing http://help.com/post/211429-what-has-…

Poster your more than welcome to come too. It may help you http://help.com/post/211429-what-has-…

Thanks for the replies everyone. I appreciate your time.
I’ve been cutting on and off for about 8 years now. I didn’t even realise it had been that long until I read some posts here and it got me thinking about when I started.

bookworm16 - I have tried speaking to my boyfriend about it, but he wants me to be able to clearly articulate specific reasons as to why I do it, and I don’t really know how to do that. So we both end up frustrated, and we fight, and it gets worse than it was before I tried to talk about it. I don’t have anyone else I can talk to about it, which is why I post here.

Thanks for the post suggestion Felicity, it’s given me something to think about.

your welcome

Have you ever thought about talking to a counsellor? They won’t ask you for specific reasons, they will help you find them.

bookworm16 wrote:
Have you ever thought about talking to a counsellor? They won’t ask you for specific reasons, they will help you find them.

I’ve thought about it. I don’t think I have enough courage.

niether did i but i had my mom go with me and (she wasnt happy about it but watever) and i was able to get help. if ur not comfortable with a parent go with a friend u can trust u dont have to do this alone but just dont dump the responisblity on someone else cause thats not gonna get u anywhere. but if u want to stop then u need help. like my friends are always reminding me, when im in the danger of relapsing, of all the great things that i have done and things i can do. i havent cut in 2 yrs now so i know u can get tho it. and if u ever need to talk u can send me a post and ill answer ASAP. ok

If you really want to stop and get better, you will find the courage. Like angeli said you can take someone with you or build up enough courage to go alone. But counselling is the best way to sort the problem out.