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My husband is horrible with money.

We have two little children and I am always worried. He has a warrant out for his arrest for not paying for a car years ago when he lived in another state! He gets served papers from people who are suing him for not paying his bill. His business is working with concrete and he writes bad checks to his vendors all the time hoping he’ll get some money in the bank by the time the check clears. We are so far in credit card debt because there is never any money in the bank. When we get some money, the first think he wants to do is buy something big and frivolous like a 50 inch TV or celebrate with an expensive dinner. He has no money to fix his old van or buy a car so he throws our money away renting for months and months now. I always pay everything on time and want nothing more than to be on track and able to save money for our future and our kids’ future, but it seems so overwhelming and impossible. What is wrong with him? How can he understand how he goes about things is dead wrong? He makes excuses after excuses and blames it on everyone else (”that bank sucks, they’re robbing us with fees!” or “this customer sucks, he refuses to pay me!”) He has such bad luck with money that I think it has something to do with his energy. Help me. I think I have taken as much as I can. I want to take the kids, leave him, and move in with my mother. He always makes ME open credit cards and bank accounts in my name. He always has a lame reason for not being able to do this or that. He always loses his cards and needs to borrow mine. He rips checks out of the checkbook and leaves no record for them. I don’t ever have to share his money woes again.

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mihrei offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (25 minutes after post)

Nothing to do with his “”"”energy”"”" its just that he bad with money. Don’t open anymore bank accounts credit cards etc for him. You 2 need to sit down a really talk about this with a professional and sort this once and for all. You could end up losing everything and I mean everything.

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tracyclaydon76 offline Verified User (2 months) Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months ago (10 months, 3 weeks after post)

The best and only thing to do is to pray to God and ask Jesus to help you both out of this mess. The Bible tells us that once we are married only death can part us so I don’t recommend leaving him. Be specific in your prayers ask God to mould him, shape him into the leader of the houshold as he should be. Repent your sins, ask for forgiveness and surrender all your burdens to Jesus. I have an endless list of personal testimonies regarding finances. My latest is my husband hadn’t worked for 4 weeks, the food cupboard was almost empty, no money in the bank, no petrol in the car, things were desperate. I looked at his bank a/c and he was seriously overdrawn direct debits bouncing and bank charges mounting up. Instead of worrying and falling down in a heap I remembered that the Bible says the Lord will never leave you nor forsake you, He will not see His seed begging bread. I sang praises and was grateful for the things that I did have instead of the things I didn’t. A couple of hours passed and I had the urge to check my bank a/c, I did think to myself what’s the point its probably in a worse state than my husbands but to my sheer delight a payment from the child tax credit had been deposited, balance £2,500!!! Praise the Lord, the first thing I did was give away £150.00 to friends who were wondering where their next meal was coming from. This is just 1 of many stories. Before I gave my life to Christ I was a drug addict and abortionist. My life had changed so much I’m free from the bondage of drugs, depression and violence. My friends and family hardily recognise me now. Give it a try you have nothing to lose and eternal life to gain. One prayer is all it takes.

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