life help: Last week, I lost my job..

cargal07

Last week, I lost my job..

In part, I was relieved, and in part, I was scared to death. I’m a strong willed person, so I have taken steps to start a childcare service here, out of my home. Today, and for the past couple, I’ve just felt so down and useless. It doesn’t prevent me from my duties as a mom, but it is affecting my relationship a bit. My boyfriend is amazing and keeps reaffirming that we and everything will be ok. Dragging myself out of bed this morning, after he left to go home for the week, I can’t help feeling that overwhelming useless feeling again. I will be 39 in a week, and I thought that through all the struggles, that I had come into my own. I was finally satisfied with who I am…and now I seem to be questioning myself again, and I just am unsure how to shake this negativity. I am a full glass type of gal that always seems to find the positive spin on any situation…except this one. I’m not pathetic or depressed or anything, just feel…nothing. Like I’m going through the motions of my once life. It’s an adjustment that has me sort of stuck…any ideas on how to shake it off? and move onto something better?

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Times' gone mad 6 #
Silver Spring, MD, US | 1 year, 1 month ago (3 minutes after post)

With the economy the way it is, people are all trying to work, or keep work and make money. A childcare service seems like a worthwhile investment, you’ll be able to spend time with your children and care for other peoples children (which could change the world—)

Look into local laws and try to do it right. Good luck.

Help me with: So, sometimes I annoy my Fiance, and sometimes he annoys me…either way, there are so many reasons I love him.

cargal07 4 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (12 minutes after post)

thanks…I’ve posted an ad on care.com, and called local clubs, where many women in the area dance. Ive called the establishments, left my name and phone number offering later night care for women who struggle to find it for one and be able to afford it. I think, that losing my routine, getting up early, getting my son ready for the sitter, and then going to work, where I was the boss, and solving everyone elses dilemas, has me feeling lost.

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linuxya 15 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (40 minutes after post)

Any kind of loss triggers grief - denial, anger, bargaining, guilt, acceptance. You’ll feel it all eventually. Networking is key. Make sure everyone you meet knows what you’re doing and that you are looking for business. Always smile and be enthusiastic. Always convey that you are a success. Your enthusiasm and positive attitude will draw in customers.

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Richard Cor de Lyon 20 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (1 hour, 6 minutes after post)

As the boss you had a certain schedule and agenda to your day. Well, you’re still the boss, make sure you keep to your plan. You’re trying to start your own business, that’s GREAT, and it should inspire you… pulling you forward, you shouldn’t be trudging anywhere. Just because you are home does not mean you HAVE to loose your organizational skills. It means you can take a break from them anytime you want :) There is a huge difference in that perspective. You are trying to organize a business in the service industry, so make sure you understand a little bit about marketing to that industry, then go about doing it, until you have the client base you want/need. It is different than standard advertising. Your networking with clubs is an excellent marketing idea by the way. What was your profession before you became an outstanding entrepreneur?

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cargal07 4 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (2 hours, 14 minutes after post)

Thank you. I managed one of 27 nationwide used car dealerships. I started from the bottom..sales…5 years ago. I was an example, not by choice, for management. I used creative marketing, Trained other managers to become Dealership managers.Handled AR/ AP for my store, and all of my vendors. Was the major decion maker for all deliquent accounts and collections..It was very rewarding. As will whatever else I venture into. I struggles for years to find childcare that was A) affordable and B) dependable. My son (3) Is amazing! He is brilliant beyond the 3 year old realm…I pride myself as a parent. I know the demand is there. I’m simply giving those the opportunity to succeed without guilt as I did in the retail business. Very similar, but..completley different.

Help me with: hey, having a crap week…where is everyone?

Times' gone mad 6 #
Silver Spring, MD, US | 1 year, 1 month ago (17 hours, 55 minutes after post)

LOL that’s true. I’m sure you’ll find no shortage of clients once you get your company going.

Help me with: So, sometimes I annoy my Fiance, and sometimes he annoys me…either way, there are so many reasons I love him.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (22 hours, 38 minutes after post)

just know your not alone.I am in the same boat. i have been in construction my whole life.just working for wadges no benes or pention .now 45yrs old.the company i worked for closed up shop after i have devoted 15 years of my hard work.Nobody wants to hire me its all i know now what
really scared

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