girl help: I self harm.

brotheremm

I self harm.

I’m not ready to tell people that know me as i’ll just make them worried, I’m not a teenager, it’s not a faze, I’ve been doing it for years and it’s become a coping mechanism and a habit.
I went out at the weekend and pulled a girl, she invited me back to hers and I ended up saying no because of the scars, and even worse, the newer cuts and burns.
I don’t lack self confidence at all but the cuts, burns and scarring are becoming a problem with meeting a new girl

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (6 minutes after post)

You say you don’t lack self confidence but then you say your scars and burns are stopping you from meeting people, or a problem and that is self confidnce.
You have things you are ashamed of and don’t want other people to notice or question also it is stopping you because you don’t know what people will think.

What do you want to change?
Do you want to stop cutting or do you want to not care about the scars and what people think?

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brotheremm 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (13 minutes after post)

I want to stop.
Meeting people isn’t a problem, I’m the girl that dances on a table, gets in your face and makes myself known. I’m outgoing and happy and the life and soul of a party. But then something happens, like the weekend, I was dancing all night with people and the same girl kept talking to me, we hit it off and she invited me back to hers, and it’s not my confidence that goes. It’s just that I suddenly become aware that people can find out, I don’t want to hurt anyone by letting them know what i do, then there’s giving an explanation as to why I do it, and i honestly don’t have a proper answer.
The reason I feel held back isn’t due to my confidence or self esteem, it’s completely down to not having the energy, or the right words, to give an explanation, especially to someone new in my life

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (18 minutes after post)

You don’t have to explain anything to anyone, I doubt if many people would ask anyway and if they do you just say and issue being sorted or lie and say you were in a fight but truth is you don’t have to say anything if you feel uncomfortable with answering, just say you would rather not talk about it.

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (19 minutes after post)

Do many people know, have you told anyone and have you had help with it before?

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (25 minutes after post)

My doctor knows, and that’s only cos i cut so deep that I needed medical attention.
And my ex knows cos she’s seen every bit of me.
and now the strangers on here know.

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brotheremm edited this post 1 year, 1 month ago. Read the previous text »

I self harm.

I’m not ready to tell people that I know as i’ll just make them worried, I’m not a teenager, it’s not a faze, I’ve been doing it for years and it’s become a coping mechanism and a habit.
I went out at the weekend and pulled a girl, she invited me back to hers and I ended up saying no because of the scars, and even worse, the newer cuts and burns.
I don’t lack self confidence at all but the cuts, burns and scarring are becoming a problem with meeting a new girl

Help me with: Whatever you do, or don’t do in your life, make sure that you never go to bed on argument.

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