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hey cheer up, you know what, meeting people can sometimes be a challenge. you get all uncomfortable and self conscious about what you might say or if they may judge you but thats what they are feeling too. Its like this, the way you treat yourself and feel about yourself is exactly how others will perceive you. If you feel bad about yourself then your projecting to the world that your a person who they should stay away from. But if you find things in yourself that makes you feel good and boosts up your confidence then people are going to start to take interests in you. Its a mirror effect, you show the world your happy, the world will want to be happy with you and enjoy your happiness. If you show that your negative and shun yourself from social activity then the world will do the same. Finding things to talk about should come natural, you shouldnt have to plan out the topics. its more about being interested in what mutual things you might have in common. thats the beginning of friendship right there :)

It really will be okay. As far as socializing with people, find people that are interested in the same things that you are. I used to be a loner too, I know what that feels like. As far as the girl goes, its okay to have a girl that you talk to that you aren’t romantically involved with. My best friend right now is a girl. No matter how long you have to wait for that special someone to come into your life, its worth it. Start noticing the things your good at, and focus on those traits. It will help you get through the most frustrating parts of life.

You want to be somebody else? Dudeeee, don’t do it. I didn’t like myself so I pretty much took on the personality of a friend. People started to call me fake, a copy, unoriginal. All of which was true. I’m working on being my own person. Find something that interests you, or a talent. Get really into it. Be excellent at whatever it is.

Ask people how their weekend was, what they thought about the game, homework assignments, etc.

food for thought:
Confidence is an attractive thing. It attracts everything/everyone to you.
give it a shot.

I’m not rly interested in anything, everything just seems soo boring and dull.

Hmm, now we’re talking depression. Just a thought, lol, don’t get freaked out, but look into. Look up the symptoms, talk to doc, etc.

You seem pretty interested in this girl. That’s not boring.

ever tried bettering yourself? working out perhaps? getting in shape, nice enough for the ladies to take notice?
If you want results with being social, it may take some interests and work to get it.
nothing comes instant, you really have to try.

otherwise it might be symptoms of something else.. maybe like depresion.

^ Mhm. I like that answer.

For you to have friends, you have to take an interest.

In anything.

classicbeaut wrote:
For you to have friends, you have to take an interest.In anything.

I try to but always end up failing. Just talking with someone has never come natural to me. Its rly pissing me off.

i have to disagree with jkeef’s last part. if you have to change for the better then do it. Bettering yourself is changing yourself, making a change to better your life.
do what you need to do to find peace and happiness.

Get some medication for your skin. Start exercising. Start smiling. Once you start smiling at people, they start smiling back and wanting to interact with you. Realize that everyone is a little shy and everyone fears rejection.

A great book I found helpful was How To Start A Conversation And Make Friends by Don Gabor. It really is as easy as the book says.

The easiest tricks are… smile, always be the FIRST so say hello and introduce yourself and shake hands… ALWAYS BE THE FIRST, NEVER WAIT! ask questions, relax and really listen, ask questions about what they just told you. Choose to be interested in other people.

i agree with jkeef you should never change who you are for someone else things will get better you will see

Things never get better just getting worse :( I’m not pretending to be someone else btw.

What your going through is mormal, especially if your teen. I think you just need some communication skills try this link, scroll down till you find what you need and it wont hurt to browse other topics too http://www.hodu.com/ECS-Menu2.shtml

anyone got any more advice?