I need some advice on my potential beau…
Hello, I’m a 16 year old girl (turning 17 in 2 weeks) and my potential boyfriend is 21 years old. Let’s say that he is called ‘Luke’. So, Luke and I have known each other for about 2 years now. I have never met Luke in person, but he is a friend of my older sister (who is 24). We only used to talk online about trivial, mundane things and it never really developed into anything, not even a friendship. Lately, I have started talking to him again, first online and now on the phone almost every day. I am developing very strong feelings for Luke because he is my perfect man-if there is such a thing. He has almost EVERYTHING in common with me, his taste in music, the programmes he watches, even the little habits I have that I thought nobody else would have. By this point most of you might be thinking…uh-oh! older guy! But no, you have no idea how genuine and lovely he is. It frustrates me that I can’t explain it properly in this post. We have talked about meeting, and he has discussed it with my sister who seems okay with it. He has agreed that we should meet in an open place and that I could bring a friend along if I was nervous or even a family member. We have also talked about a possible relationship if we get on well in person. The only problem is…he thinks that I am 17 now, and 18 in 2 weeks, when really I am only 16, but 17 in 2 weeks. I asked him how young he would be willing to go, and he said 17 years old…because he has been out with a 17 year old in the past. So this is my problem. I can’t start any kind of relationship with him based on lies, so I need to tell him my real age. I am worried this might be a problem for him though, even though I will be 17 when we actually meet in person. He has told me that he thinks it’s absurd that he has such feelings for me even though we haven’t met, but he can’t help it, and hopes it can develop into something more. I also want this, but I’m worried that my age or the lie I told will drive him away. So my question to you is…when should I tell him, how should I tell him and what do you think his reaction will be? I am pretty mature for my age anyway, and know that I have more than 2 brain cells to rub together (part of the reason why he likes me) yet I still worry that he might reject me, because I can see a future with this man. Please help! Thankyou for reading my post. :)
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