Love help: what should i do? - Help.com

Realize he chose to hurt you and that you do not deserve to be treated badly.
Realize love is something you can give or take.
(you do not have to love him anymore)
You will have pain from being betrayed, but realize you can be happy in knowing you love yourself enough to step away from giving him power to hurt you.
Realize your love is only meant to be given to those who will nurture it

Let out the pain like a torrential rain,
laugh through the tears, so you can can stay sane.
and when the dark storms have settled down,
you will see yourself without a frown.
Remember love is always there,
Yours, your own, to take or share.

(yeah that’s corny, I know)

Winter.Rain wrote:
Realize he chose to hurt you and that you do not deserve to be treated badly.
Realize love is something you can give or take.
(you do not have to love him anymore)
You will have pain from being betrayed, but realize you can be happy in knowing you love yourself enough to step away from giving him power to hurt you.
Realize your love is only meant to be given to those who will nurture it

Let out the pain like a torrential rain,
laugh through the tears, so you can can stay sane.
and when the dark storms have settled down,
you will see yourself without a frown.
Remember love is always there,
Yours, your own, to take or share.

(yeah that’s corny, I know)

that’s not corny at all; it is actually perfectly said :)
i can’t even add anything cause you covered every it all

Thank you. ^^

Hi Mas, I apologize if I came off as fake. I truly meant what I said. I just really took my time to reply after I saw Dogma’s “answer”.

Once a cheater, always a cheater. He will never change, that’s the way it goes. And he’s likely addicted to the drugs. He can’t give you everything you need and deserve, and if you sit around waiting and hoping he’ll change just because he may plead and cry and beg and tell you how much he loves you, you’ll waste your life away. There’s no use being with someone like that when you deserve so much more. He needs help, and people that need help can’t be in steady relationships and have it work. Life just sucks that way.

It sounds like you’re in the midst of a listen to the heart or the head dilemma… These are tough, because one reminds you of all the great things he did and the times you shared - this makes you fall in love all over again. The other warns you about how much he can and has hurt you with his lies and betrayals - this makes you angry at him and you feel hatred for how much he hurt you. The answer lies somewhere between the two. You cannot pretend that you never loved him or that you will stop loving him because he hurt you… those feelings don’t disappear. Further, you cannot pretend that he is all bad and that because he betrayed you he deserves an awful fate.

You can only control you: realize that he’s a flawed human being with good and bad points, and decide whether the bad outweighs the good. It really sounds like you’ve already made this decision, and the good is outweighed by the bad. So, now you need to know how to let go. This is a minute by minute, then a day by day, and then a week by week process until you are able to wean yourself off of him. It’s hard and it takes time, but if you begin to tell yourself to let go and you fill your new-found time with things that make you happy (i.e. hanging out with friends and family, doing puzzles, running, etc.) you will find yourself a more fulfilled and a happier person for it. Then, you will also be open to loving another again, as you have come back to loving yourself first.

Please check out my post from earlier today :)

http://help.com/post/211805-get-over-it