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**** ‘em.

You should be ashamed of you.

oh ****, I meant to say that you should NOT be ashamed of you.

oops.

But i am.. I can’t believe he read EVERY post of mine…

Things like wanting to kill myself and cutting he knows everything now..

If that happened to me, i would not think too bad about it. Because i am just being honest with what i have inside.

Well, that would depend on who this person is. A boyfriend, or a casual friend who? Nothing wrong with posting here. he was not invited to help himself to your info however. What did he say after he read everything? Snooping is unbecoming no matter who it is :(

But I don’t want people to know that I actually know! Especially not him!

who is him?

I would die! That’s why no one here knows who I am! It’s a small world after all. You shouldn’t indicate on help.com who you are in real life. It is embarrassing and can be potentially unsafe!

Honesty is better. Know why? You have nothing to hide. When you try to hide things, you feel like crap. You live a double life. You live a lie. Far better that people know the truth and accept you or reject you for who you really are.

I prefer that people know my weaknesses. It has made my life so much easier than it was when I wanted people to think I was perfect.

Who is this guy?

is he an old boyfriend or something?

No…just a friend.

But I’m technically not lying to him.. I’m just not saying everything

Well…if this person cares about you or has a heart he will fell sympathy with you. If not, why do you care. I knew a girl who cut herself and when I found out and made me want to get to know her better and be her friend. Everyone needs a friend.

If he doesn’t care about you, who cares what he thinks?

He does care…

But I don’t want him to know any of this.

God….

and why should you have to? You life your business. We are not to go around being an open book for all to read after all. I bet he wouldn’t appreciate it if this situation was reversed. This is unacceptable to me :(

I’d tell him that you were posting on behalf of someone else. Who cares if he believes it or not. This way you are planting doubt in him and that’s what he needs to have after what he did.

No…he knows it was me..

he knows how I am.

Well then You can’t undo what he already knows. He would be real quick off my friends list. Real friends don’t take liberties to their friends confidential posts. What do you think he will do with this info now?

It’s not confidential, maybe they read because they want to be a better friend and to understand.

Why should he care about your posts?
What effect could this bring to you in real life?

well… he said he wouldn’t read them..

and he did.

Do you think he is going to tell other people, why are you worried?

i still don’t get it why you are so worried.

I would talk to him about it. ask him if he’s now prepared to help you with your problems.

Becauseeeee
I don’t want him to know

I don’t want his help
I dont want him to always be checking up on me
or telling me he’s always there for me..
I just…i don’t know how to explain it.

Then just tell him not to talk about it to you.

Then you can tell him to limit his checking on you.
Does is sound like stalking?
There is a difference between checking/caring from stalking or smothering.

If he wants to know anything let him get it from the horses mouth you personally! Like I said, a real friend wouldn’t say first I won’t read it and then out right lie and do it anyway. Gosh!!! With friends like that who needs enemies :(

Well…now your stuck. If he cares, he cares. He should feel closer to you. You didn’t want it to happen but it did. You can’t un ring the bell. And you have someone who cares about you. There are people who feel like they have no one. Would you rather be in that boat?

Closer to you through means of deception :(

That’s what happens when you don’t use the internet properly.

or choosing more carefully who you select as a friend :(

I mean he’s nice and he fun but I just wish he wouldn’t have read my posts.

iI appreciate him…but

I don’t know…….

maybe he’s concerned…

Before I posted my last post

he asked if I was okay

I said I was fine

and posted it.

then i said that everything was okay and i said g’night sweet dreams like i always do

and then got off
and he decided to read them..imnot sure why..

I dont get it.

Well but unfortunately it is a public forum everyone gets to see that.
Anyway, move on from there.