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to continue with the love topic…

:D i really like someone. overall we’re both very alike: with similar views, interests, same music tastes, etc. i used to get a lot of attention from him (like till a month ago): always writing me, offering to go out to places, etc. but at the point when i started to understand, that i’m developing feelings for him, i just became, well, not very communicative and shy :D or is it just that i have a sort of personality, that i can’t always be very chatty and fun, hehe. so then we met and that’s how it sort of ended. he stopped writing me and found a girlfriend very soon.

now that i found out that he’s single again.. hehe.. well, he’s still very nice and warm to me when we talk in person, but he never writes me online (as he used to do that every day before).

so do you think, did he totally lose all the interest in me? or do i still have some chances with him, if i try harder?

btw there’s also a big age difference (i’m turning 17 in 3 months, he’s turning 23..). tho many people consider me very mature and most of the guys i’ve been seeing lately were 4-6 years older than me.

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EmilyRI offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (5 minutes after post)

Well the age difference could scare him a little. Maybe he was also speaking with his exgirlfriend while he was talking to you but never told you about her because he felt bad.
I don’t think you should “try harder”. Just be yourself. Do what you’ve always done. Maybe sugar him up a little to grab his attention if he seems to be wandering…he should like you for who you are not someone trying to impress him!

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1 year, 4 months ago (11 minutes after post)

o no no, never tried to impress him, rly :) in a way, i think that i’m acting too natural myself, maybe he thinks, that i don’t have any feelings for him, cause i’m not rly good at flirting and stuff like that. and i don’t rly know how to show a guy that i like him, etc…

and when he got himself a gf, he immediately told me about it. i wonder why? :D when he broke up with her, he told me about it too..

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albe11 offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (18 minutes after post)

don’t act too desperate. Maybe if play hard to get he’ll come back. Maybe he’s alittle scared of the age thing?

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1 year, 4 months ago (27 minutes after post)

mm, well, i do have tons of self-respect not to act desperate :) i somehow want to lose this ‘mask’ sometimes to let other people know what i feel. but then again, i’m afraid of getting hurt sometimes..

i don’t think, that the age thing is a problem for him. he knew my age from the very beginning and he was the one giving all the attention out..

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1 year, 4 months ago (32 minutes after post)

Well I don’t know what to tell you. Have you told him how you feel or do you just flirt with him? He might like flirting with you but wouldn’t actually date someone that young.

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1 year, 4 months ago (40 minutes after post)

i still don’t think that this is the case. cause it’s not the flirt that bonds us. it’s rather the emotional and intellectual connection and what is more to it is our great love for the same music. he does a lot of good for the scene in our country (which is pretty underground) and i also have a great interest in it. so i’m not really an average girl here. which also helps to attract a certain type of guys, hehe :D

i haven’t told him how i feel, i’m still waiting for a proper time.. i’m probably going to meet him tomorrow (not just the 2 of us and not by agreement..) and i’ll see how it all goes

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wk_8 offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (4 hours, 20 minutes after post)

good luck!:)

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