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A Good friend is having serious mental issues, can any one help me on how to help her?
I’m at a loss.
One of my good friends is having a lot of trouble at the moment.She failed our last year of high school and now works in a apprenticeship,she is not enjoying it but its taking to her dream career of nursing.Throughout the last year she has just gotten more depressed than usual.But before I go on, some background info on her. Her oldest sister, Sarah passed away from cancer, when she (my friend) was only four.It appears since then she has built up a fake memory of Sarah.However, she is always going on and on and on about her deceased sister, and will even start crying.One of her episodes she started crying and saying “I can see her, she wants to take me with her to heaven.” She even goes my sister this and my sister that a lot, One example was for studio art of which we both took, she designed her book and artwork on Sarah, I did mine on native Indian artwork and landscapes. When our pieces were assessed I received full marks, however my friend only received a fraction of the allocated marks. She started to have a tantrum and crying, saying but “it was about my sister Sarah, its more important than stupid landscapes”.She promptly stormed off and was not seen again that day.I brushed it off believing it was one of her attention seeking moments, as through all of high school she has always been ’sick’,or moping and moaning about, which gains sympathy from others etc.I am not sure if this is due to pressure from her mother to be like her deceased sister, as I have noticed rifts within the family.Or just because she feels she needs to be like her.I have not known her mother to talk about Sarah at all.As it was over 15years ago that Sarah passed away.On top of all of this she has a long list of broken relationships, and guys who chase her.She gets needy and clingy and soon the guys go away because she starts to talk about Sarah.Which is creating a reputation of her own making.I believe she is depressed but can any one tell me if there are any other underlying or serious mental health issues here? I believe there are but I am powerless to make her help herself, short of leaving pamphlets and notes around with psychologists numbers.I am going to use shock tactics soon as I am at a loss on how to help her as I have also moved away to further my studies. From what I have said, does anyone think there are any serious issues?
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