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I just don’t know! I keep having these feelings that are making me extreamly down. I can’t seem to fight them anymore. I hate to admit it but, it’s like I’ve just given in to them. They are taking control of everything. I can’t talk to anyone around me because either they just blow me off or are too concerned about little things to give a darn. The people closest to me don’t seem like they want to be bothered by what I’m talking about like I’m a burden to them. I’m just so tired of fighting these feelings that I’m worn out…literaly! I don’t know what to do. I’m a hot mess today.
What are the feelings?
People are often flippant about other people when they’re down. Mainly because they don’t know what to say or do, and so they feel uncomfortable. It’s worth making it clear you need their help though. At least one will come through and help.
Strangely, speaking to someone in the dark helps a lot, but its hard to arrange!
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1 year, 1 month ago (8 minutes after post)
thats exactly how i feel
especially “I’m a burden to them”
i feel so down but i want help
but i don know how others can help me
its frustrating
im afraid my frds will leave me coz ive been so negative
but i don have space to think bout others…
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1 year, 1 month ago (11 minutes after post)
Anonymous wrote:
thats exactly how i feelespecially “I’m a burden to them”i feel so down but i want helpbut i don know how others can help me its frustratingim afraid my frds will leave me coz ive been so negativebut i don have space to think bout others…
EXACTLY!! IT’s like I tell them I have a problem and they don’t want to hear about it but expect me to sit there and listen to them talk about dry skin or something (I’m not knocking dry skin it is a problem in itself, it’s just and example) I need help and actually want help. I guess I don’t really know what I’m expecting from anyone. Just to be there and tell me that I’m going to be ok. That they will be there and honestly, whole heartedly mean it!
You’re not a burden at all.
When you like someone, you want to help, but if you don’t know how you get kinda awkward. So you might flick it to something safe and easy.
Talking does help, but its as much about you clearing out those feelings as them actually doing something to help you. Like you say yourself, you don’t know how they can help either.
No friend would ever leave you because you’re feeling unhappy.
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1 year, 1 month ago (18 minutes after post)
Sometimes thats the way I feel about my boyfriend like he doesn’t even want to be around me when I’m like this or even talk to me. It hurts A LOT because all I guess I really want is to talk to someone about whats going on. He means the world to me and when he does that it makes me feel even smaller. Which doesn’t help any…ya know?
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1 year, 1 month ago (22 minutes after post)
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Anonymous wrote:
thats exactly how i feelespecially “I’m a burden to them”i feel so down but i want helpbut i don know how others can help me its frustratingim afraid my frds will leave me coz ive been so negativebut i don have space to think bout others…
EXACTLY!! IT’s like I tell them I have a problem and they don’t want to hear about it but expect me to sit there and listen to them talk about dry skin or something (I’m not knocking dry skin it is a problem in itself, it’s just and example) I need help and actually want help. I guess I don’t really know what I’m expecting from anyone. Just to be there and tell me that I’m going to be ok. That they will be there and honestly, whole heartedly mean it!
i used to be opposite, u know? i always said positive things to my friends if they feel down. i didnt like negative people. but now im in this situation. so i know how others feel like if they keep hearing negative things. i understand. so i think i just shut my mouth and keep it inside of me. but i know i want someone’s help.
just a big loooong hug and want to keep crying with no reason.
when people ask me how i feel, i cant even explain.
what’s this feelings? why do ppl fall into this whole?
People are a pain, especially the people we love. If only they’d work out we want.
Like I say he probably has no idea what to do to help, so he feels inadequate. You have to make it clear you just need him to listen and that’s all.
We all need that hug, and a good cry never did anyone any harm. It’s good for the skin you know.
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1 year, 1 month ago (30 minutes after post)
Your probably right. I don’t think you should keep it in. I have the same problem of actually getting it out in the open. It’s hard to tell someone how we feel because, for me, I don’t know why I feel like this! I don’t want to make him upset by telling him. I was told a few times I”m a “people pleaser” which maybe might go for you Anonymous? I guess when it comes down to it I just flippen want someone to be there for me and right know IDK who that is
Ah, the words for those feelings. It’s like being two again, when you haven’t been taught enough words yet. Frustrating!
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1 year, 1 month ago (40 minutes after post)
Definatly haha both frustrating and it makes me angry sometimes too! A times I can’t focus enough on what I need to say to get my point across. I start rambling and gettin things all turned around LOL..it’s funny now to think about but at the time it wasn’t haha
Glad you’re laughing. We’re ridiculous when looking back, but what can you do? We are who we are. We might find the words one day, and then they’ll listen! lol
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1 year, 1 month ago (53 minutes after post)
I hope your right becasue I really don’t want to lose him. He means a lot to me. It sounds cheezy but I’m head over heal for him. He doesn’t deserve what I throw at him at times. Sometimes I want to break everything off becasue I dont’ want to put him through the hastle of me. Sounds werid but honest it is
It actually makes perfect sense. If he loves you as much, he’ll put up with it. You sound fine to me, he should be grateful to have you loving him. Just make sure you tell him how much you appreciate the things he does do… and he should do the same to you, don’t forget your half of the partnership.
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1 year, 1 month ago (1 hour after post)
Your right! I should tell him more often. Sometimes it’s hard to see other people when I feel this way. I think it might be difficult for him to process what’s really going on with me…..Thanks so much you have helped me out a lot:)
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1 year, 1 month ago (1 hour, 1 minute after post)
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IHe doesn’t deserve what I throw at him at times. Sometimes I want to break everything off becasue I dont’ want to put him through the hastle of me. Sounds werid but honest it is
I totally understand.
People around me deserve better. They don need to hear what I said. They are just being nice to me.
I hate me bing like this..
maybe when you want to tell something to him, you can write here instead. I write a blog. It makes me feel better and realize nobody actually answer my questions. It’s good to write it down. so you can know how you feel.
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1 year, 1 month ago (1 hour, 3 minutes after post)
i meant nobody actually CAN answer my questions. so it’s hard for your bf or my frds to keep hearing. and yes, it is very very important to tell them how much you (I) appreciate their help. maybe it’s time to take a next step to me, too…
No problem. You look after yourself…. both of you! And now, as it’s gone 3 in the morning here I’m off to bed.
Sleep well when you get there. And don’t worry about them feelings, they’ll sort themselves out if you treat them carefully.
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1 year, 1 month ago (1 hour, 6 minutes after post)
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1 year, 1 month ago (1 hour, 12 minutes after post)
[/quote]I totally understand.People around me deserve better. They don need to hear what I said. They are just being nice to me.I hate me bing like this.. maybe when you want to tell something to him, you can write here instead. I write a blog. It makes me feel better and realize nobody actually answer my questions. It’s good to write it down. so you can know how you feel.[/quote]
I know what your saying! Thanks for writting back on here it’s good to know that your not alone feeling like this. I actually blog myself its one of my addictions i suppose :) I don’t like myself either when I get this way I just want to isolate myself even more..which in the long run does not help things at all. Usually makes things worse! Trying to stay positve is one of the hardest things for me. U would think it would be easy but for me it’s not! Have you ever felt that way?
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1 year, 1 month ago (1 hour, 18 minutes after post)
f**k ya.
my friends say “be positive” “you have to find what you really want to do”
I know they are right. but i say or think “it might be easy for you to say that. nobody understands me.” i somehow stay the same, being negative or just feeling nothing. I know i’m being selfish and childish. I feel sorry for my frds that i cannot actually listen to their advice and change. i might be afraid to fail or get hurt again. i don know.
they gotta live their lives , too.
why is staying positive so difficult? if im not strong, i cant be positive. then what’s the meaning of being strong? huh… what am i actually thinking? lol
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1 year, 1 month ago (1 hour, 32 minutes after post)
Hahah I hear ya! Sometimes it feels like the easy way out to say “stay positive” Sometimes the people that say that to me look at me like they have just given me a little piece of the universe. like they deserve the nobel prize becasue it’s just that good. When in reality they are totally ranting useless info. IDK maybe that’s a little cynical to say. I’m sorry.
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