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courtybubble 96 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (2 minutes after post)

yea i got sick of reading your annoying posts, now im too annoyed to help you.

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albe11 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (7 minutes after post)

I agree, this is pathetic. Just apologize to Helen and let they guy down easy, tell him you’re already with someone.

*country girl* 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (9 minutes after post)

take things 1 step at a time
the first thing you should do is apologize to “Helen”…don’t give excusses for what you did but do let her know that you’re sincerly sorry for what you did.
talk with “Tina” about why she told and if she will beable to keep your secrets in the future.
tell boy 2 that you have a boyfriend that you care about deeply and you cannot return his love

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accountcancelled. 7 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (13 minutes after post)

No one made you read them.

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courtybubble 96 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (14 minutes after post)

no one made you write them either. never heard of the boy who cried wolf?

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (15 minutes after post)

Thanks for taking me seriously. I basically did all that but still. I’m only a 15 year old who doesn’t know what to better do with her time. I’m clever but I’m still a pretty pathetic person.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (16 minutes after post)

I wrote them because I was happy, some people like them and others don’t I know that. All I did was keep posting because I was bored, I’m sorry if you don’t like that but I wouldn’t post something up like that to distract anyone from helping someone. God knows, we all need help.

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*country girl* 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (21 minutes after post)

learningtobreathe wrote:
Thanks for taking me seriously. I basically did all that but still. I’m only a 15 year old who doesn’t know what to better do with her time. I’m clever but I’m still a pretty pathetic person.

you are what you pretend to be….if you think your pathetic then you are so stop thinking your pathetic :)
we all make mistakes and have problems in life but hey that’s what makes life fun…if everything was easy life would be boring

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okei! 6 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (25 minutes after post)

but we are all helping real here!

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (27 minutes after post)

I’m sorry, I don’t really get what you mean.

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okei! 6 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (50 minutes after post)

ur not pathetic! ur a lovely young girl. period.

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*country girl* 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (55 minutes after post)

okei! wrote:
ur not pathetic! ur a lovely young girl. period.

i second that vote

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mumstheword 21 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (1 hour, 18 minutes after post)

Hi there.

I don’t know what you told Tina, but whatever it was there are things to learn from here.

Firstly, people betray a trust. Secondly people gossip. Thirdly whatever you do in life has a consequence. Telling secrets and assuming they will be kept always backfires if the intention in the first place was to “gossip”. Telling a secret in an effort to help can bring the same consequences but at least you know you were doing something positive not negative.

The only way forward with that is to apologise and tell people you didn’t realise the implications of what you were doing.

With the guy who loves you, you need to be straight. Tell him “I am happy with my current partner and I don’t want things to change there so I am sorry but I am not available”. If you aren’t assertive you will make him love you more! Assertive is different to agressive and is not unkind.

No need to feel down now, life is a huge learning curve and if you never make mistakes, you’ve never had a life!

I’m sorry some users felt your post was invalid. I guess that’s another life lesson. Some people are just plain rude and find it easier to be abusive than helpful.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (1 hour, 29 minutes after post)

Thank you but just for the record I wasn’t trying to get sympathy though it is greatly appreciated.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (1 hour, 31 minutes after post)

mumstheword wrote:
Hi there.

I don’t know what you told Tina, but whatever it was there are things to learn from here.

Firstly, people betray a trust. Secondly people gossip. Thirdly whatever you do in life has a consequence. Telling secrets and assuming they will be kept always backfires if the intention in the first place was to “gossip”. Telling a secret in an effort to help can bring the same consequences but at least you know you were doing something positive not negative.

The only way forward with that is to apologise and tell people you didn’t realise the implications of what you were doing.

With the guy who loves you, you need to be straight. Tell him “I am happy with my current partner and I don’t want things to change there so I am sorry but I am not available”. If you aren’t assertive you will make him love you more! Assertive is different to agressive and is not unkind.

No need to feel down now, life is a huge learning curve and if you never make mistakes, you’ve never had a life!

I’m sorry some users felt your post was invalid. I guess that’s another life lesson. Some people are just plain rude and find it easier to be abusive than helpful.

Thank you for that, Tina has talked to Helen and explained that I wasn’t actually the one to first tell her which is a slight comfort to me though I know that I shouldn’t have spoken about her life to anyone as it was.

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mumstheword 21 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (1 hour, 39 minutes after post)

:) See? Make a mistake and you grow into a better person.

Where would we be if we didn’t make a few now and then.

Max 140 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (1 day, 16 hours after post)

He’s a guy secret….when guy’s walk along the beach they fall in love every 5 seconds..lol. Girl friends last longer:) I have no more to say on this topic…lol

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Okay, a real help one now.

As short as I can make it. I have two good friends, one of whom has a boyfriend in uni let’s call her Helen. The other I tell everything to, in strict confidence call her Tina. I told Tina something about Helen and the Tina told Helen what I’d said to her. Rumours are flying. Helen just called me and asked if I did tell Tina, I was honest and told her I had. Needless to say Helen hates me.

Then a guy I am good friends with and who I knew likes me just told me he loves me. I love my boyfriend and there is no way I can be with this guy. I don’t want to hurt him too.

I feel like **** and I know it’s all my fault, what do I do.

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