Love help: Is being a hopeless romantic a waste of time? - Help.com

no. cause i am so myself :p

I don’t think so. You just need to find a girl that appreciates you. And tell your friends that its not your fault that their girlfriend broke up with them, its their fault for not giving them the attention they needed. Maybe they could learn from you.

omg where was you 24 yo lol!
your princess is out there :)

yah its me, its me! lol

i want to be a princess :) lol

Sigh….

I’ve completely lost focus on doing any helping now and am away with the fairies dreaming of sunsets and rose petals..

yah! me too.

what a load of BULLS**T
Yes, you want an honest answer? Its a huge waste of time. Even if you do find “the one”…lifes not all butterflies and rainbows…
and neither are relationships.
No fairy tale ending here…so you should get your head out of the clouds and focus more on finding a down to earth person to accompany you through life.
hell, why do you even need someone to accompany you through it? Be happy and content with yourself, by yourself.
No such thing as everlasting relationships.
Someone always dies…or cheats.

I’m a hopless romantic. Most girls love it, they think you’re sweet, sensitive, and funny. Then they go out with you and you’re “not man enough” or ‘too much of a wimp”. But, there are a few out there who are hopeless romantics themselves. If you find one that loves you, it’s all worth it.

Anonymous wrote:
what a load of BULLS**T
Yes, you want an honest answer? Its a huge waste of time. Even if you do find “the one”…lifes not all butterflies and rainbows…
and neither are relationships.
No fairy tale ending here…so you should get your head out of the clouds and focus more on finding a down to earth person to accompany you through life.
hell, why do you even need someone to accompany you through it? Be happy and content with yourself, by yourself.
No such thing as everlasting relationships.
Someone always dies…or cheats.

clap! clap!
ps. true love stays. even after death.
eg. my father’s love for us.

Anonymous wrote:
what a load of BULLS**TYes, you want an honest answer? Its a huge waste of time. Even if you do find “the one”…lifes not all butterflies and rainbows…and neither are relationships.No fairy tale ending here…so you should get your head out of the clouds and focus more on finding a down to earth person to accompany you through life.hell, why do you even need someone to accompany you through it? Be happy and content with yourself, by yourself.No such thing as everlasting relationships. Someone always dies…or cheats.

Dear help.com

I’m fed up. I think I’m pretty but they all say I’m ugly. I’m caring and kind but my sisters hate me and take advantage all the time. My godmother buys me clothes now and then but my step-mother despises me and is abusive. My father died a while back. I miss him. I never get to go to parties or have friends around because there are so many chores to do and my shoes don’t even fit me properly… any ideas? Love Cinderella.

I just wrote that to show that in fact..Real world modern life isn’t so removed from fairytales sometimes anon….. we meet plenty of “cinderellas” on here, so there’s room for a few Prince Charmings!

As for they don’t last.. I’m a hopeless romantic and we’ve been married a quarter of a century.

Anonymous wrote:
what a load of BULLS**T
Yes, you want an honest answer? Its a huge waste of time. Even if you do find “the one”…lifes not all butterflies and rainbows…
and neither are relationships.
No fairy tale ending here…so you should get your head out of the clouds and focus more on finding a down to earth person to accompany you through life.
hell, why do you even need someone to accompany you through it? Be happy and content with yourself, by yourself.
No such thing as everlasting relationships.
Someone always dies…or cheats.

crikey youve been hurt before havnt you :(

I think Hybrid is right! You just need to find another Hopeless Romantic !

Anonymous wrote:
what a load of BULLS**TYes, you want an honest answer? Its a huge waste of time. Even if you do find “the one”…lifes not all butterflies and rainbows…and neither are relationships.No fairy tale ending here…so you should get your head out of the clouds and focus more on finding a down to earth person to accompany you through life.hell, why do you even need someone to accompany you through it? Be happy and content with yourself, by yourself.No such thing as everlasting relationships. Someone always dies…or cheats.

lol, I am realistc I understand life is not all butterfiles and rainbows or relationships (w/ relationships there will always be some difference). Why should someone have to settle? It’s like someone wanting a Bently but settling for a ford. Why can’t that person get the bently?

Of course you do not need someone; In fact I am perfectly happy w/o having someone it gives me more time to focus on myself and who I want to be etc…

you are taking the everlasting part way overboard; I think we ALL know that someone will eventually die.

yeah but hopeless romantics do get hurt more when they’re lover lets them down so you have to make sure you find someone who is as hopelessly romantic as you and don’t let that fade.

to hopeless romantics, cheers!

I’m not sure if this is fact but, I read once that our bodies have enough of the hormones that make you feel you are in “love” to last for 2 years. after that it must be replaced with stability and comfort.

sounds fine right? well after these hormones run out…the fires gone.
and your stuck in a dull relationship with someone your not even in love with anymore

I give you all props for standing strong…i just hope your faith can stand through the test of reality.

when a person is in love, part of her brain shut downs.
that explains why

and love will fly out of the window
when poverty knocks in

clap! clap!

Headlines:

2 Hopeless Romantics survive:

being homeless
being broke
losing a child
one gifted child with issues.. one child with learning disabilities
two alzheimers elderly dependents
one disabled romantic
two warzones
one rescue dog with issues
one three legged cat
one major terror attack
one hopeless romantics dreadful cooking
one hopeless romantics attempts at DIY

30 years of hopeless romanticism and still in love

:o) just cos it didn’t work for some.. doesn’t mean it can’t for you!

Ah… I just know that deep down I’m a hopeless romantic, too.
It would be so much easier not to be one.
I suppose that’s the reason why I haven’t had a boyfriend yet. I just can’t make myself be with someone I’m not in love with.

TL;DR

“Is being a hopeless romantic a waste of time?”

By definition, YES. That’s why they call it hopeless!

However, being a romantic is not a waste of time. It’s all the fun, with a dash of reality thrown into the mix.

mumstheword wrote:
Headlines:

2 Hopeless Romantics survive:

being homeless
being broke
losing a child
one gifted child with issues.. one child with learning disabilities
two alzheimers elderly dependents
one disabled romantic
two warzones
one rescue dog with issues
one three legged cat
one major terror attack
one hopeless romantics dreadful cooking
one hopeless romantics attempts at DIY

30 years of hopeless romanticism and still in love

love it!

mumstheword wrote:
Headlines:

2 Hopeless Romantics survive:

being homeless
being broke
losing a child
one gifted child with issues.. one child with learning disabilities
two alzheimers elderly dependents
one disabled romantic
two warzones
one rescue dog with issues
one three legged cat
one major terror attack
one hopeless romantics dreadful cooking
one hopeless romantics attempts at DIY

30 years of hopeless romanticism and still in love

love it!

legalblonde100 wrote:
Bringing some honor, tenderness, and dare I say it, ROMANCE to your life and to that of another is NEVER a waste of time. We live in such a time of chaos, upheaval, and betrayal–who would not WANT to color their lives with the stuff dreams are made of. I say…keep the romance in your heart. And should you be blessed to find another, equally hopeless romantic with which to share your life, ahhhh..therein is the stuff of which dreams are made.

No romance in your life is like the peanut butter sandwich without the jelly. Yeah, it’s nutricious enough to sustain you, and you can eat it that way–but who would want to?

- Set your castle in the air
Build a ship to take you there -

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it is not a waste of time as long as you are happy with it. if it means your joy, love and happiness, it will never be a waste of time (if you read my previous replies, i am just a girl and fickle minded too)